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writes:I have question about dating.I just got my confidence not a long time ago and built up my self esteem really good i am happy now , i love to go to school because i have alot of friends and a lot of girls flirt with me and i can confidently flirt back and talk to them, but one chapter is missing.How do i ask a girl to a date ? and after how many days can you do that or if you know her for a long time , then how to not make her feel not uncomfortable ? I ask because ,before girls did ask me to go on a date with them so i don't really know. So i can start it but not continue it.I used to have a complicated problem which you can see when you read my first question on my page and thank god i got over it.I thank forward for answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Hey KidfromLA93!
I'm not sure if you're talking generally or if you have a particular girl in mind but I'd guess it's the second one because you wouldn't go to the bother of posting a question online if you weren't interested in someone.
I think the best way to ask a girl out is to get her on her own (then she'll know you're serious and went to some effort)and ask her straight out. Most girls I know are real romantics and like guys who are honest and decent. The girl will know you like her and if she likes you back she will have no hesitation in going out with you. Girls love guys who make the first move!
You wanted to know next I think how to not make her uncomfortable? Well, the situation may feel awkward if you're nervous about asking her out but that's probably just you. If she fancies you back then she will have been waiting for you to ask her out for weeks.She'll be thrilled and excited about your date.
Timing is very important but there is no set amount of days after meeting a girl when it's ok to ask her out. If it is meant to be then the chance to get her on her own will present itself and it's your job to make the most of it! Instinct can always be helpful and you'll know yourself if it's too early to ask for a date.
If this is a girl that you're really good friends with it can be awkward. If you already enjoy spending time alone with her and you feel that you want to be more than friends, I would encourage you to go for it. However, this kind of thing can often backfire and the friendship may be damaged beyond repair.I know you've probably thought of that already so it's not much good to you! Well anyway, the best advice I could give you if it's a friend is to gradually give her a few compliments (simple things like 'You look nice today' or 'Your hair looks nice like that'). From her reactions you may be able to tell what her real feelings for you are. You must remember to take things really slow and if it looks like she doesn't like you as any more than a friend STOP.
If you get past the compliments with all going well and you're not sure what to do next, let me know, I'd be glad to help.
You must remember that this advice is not expert and it may not work. But I do know what teenage girls are like, being one myself so...
Actually maybe this is what works in Ireland, maybe LA is a different story! Anyway, best of luck!
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