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writes:My boyfriend and I have been in the same group of friends since freshman year high school. We sorta drifted in and out over those years but were always in contact. He had a serious relationship for 2.5 years but they broke up. He's talked to a few girls for a few years until he finally started liking me (only guy to like me at the ripe age of 23)I'd never even gone on a date before him (and I've been called pretty/hot/etc). So he was my first everything.Problem is, this past weekend, I was making a scrapbook for my best friend's wedding and I keep seeing pictures of us young. And I removed all pix of the ex but seeing him at that age, all I think about is how he was with her... stuff they did together. How happy he was. How different he was then. (How she had him first and took his first everything). How do I move on and get over these thoughts? How do I let them go? I can't forget how he was then but how can I stop remembering?
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reader, Jesc +, writes (12 May 2010):
 Honestly, I have the same issue. I feel in love with my Hubby(boyfriend@time), 7th grade. He was my first love,first kiss. I held onto the rest due to the fact he moved away if he stayed things might have been different. But sadly it was just a fantasy.
I would often think of his first, as to why her?What was wrong with me? He looked so happy?etc. It would tare me up on the inside. I couldn't deal with it any longer. I brought it up to him.
I asked him for the truth, I told him everything I thought on the matter. He told me honestly, That he faked it. He faked that smile, He faked that "love". He told me it was a past, a past man that he never wants to be. That I am the present and future for him.
You should try talking to him about it, Be honest with him so he will be honest with you.
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