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writes:Hey everyone! You may remember me from the guy who got me pregnant on purpose and then completely got disrespectful and wanted me to have an abortion... anyhow, I'm now 10 wks preggo, I've seen the guy a few times (being dumb) because he has acted like he wanted to be involved and see me but it has ended in constant disrespect... I'm so hurt and full of hate.I don't know what to do anymore. I may be hormonal but its like, how do I move on? I've blocked him from being able to call, text, and even email me. How do I not think of him and look forward for "MY" future baby and boys because its clear that I don't mean anything to him the way he has treated me and carried on... I don't know, I just feel so used and he is probably having the time of his life... no matter what, im still excited about my bean and I want to erase him :''(
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx guys but when I said "got me pregnant" I meant WE did it on purpose... yes it does take time and I don't hate my decision, just HIM... but each day, I push to go forward...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 Uh-uh. Necessary ear pull : to move on you also need snapping out of the victim mentality. He did not get you pregnant on purpose, you did that to yourself. You weren't using contracception, no contracception, very often = pregnancy. As you knew already, so you have made your choice. No need to hate yourself for this choice, which in fact may bring you tons of joy - yet, at the same time, no need to hate him for your joint decision.
It's normal that you feel hurt and mad about what happened, and it takes time for tese feelings to go away. Luckily you have a big incentive and something very exciting to distract you. Focus on your baby and all the cool stuff you'll teach him and you'll do together, that will cut the brooding over the past. Get involved in your pregnancy- follow a prenatal gym class, make lists of baby names, knit baby booties, join an online forum for future moms... whatever works. And when the baby will be born, trust me ,... I hope it does not sound like a threat , but... for the first months passion love and romance will be the last thing in your mind, you'll get the same high of wild sex from being able to get a long, good nap,lol.
Let time work its magic, you will be fine. And next time please be much more careful in your choice of men !
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): Sorry, I obviously missed the previous post. How did this guy get you pregnant on purpose? Are you saying you played no part in getting pregnant? Bizarrely enough, sex involves TWO parties and BOTH have the same responsibility into getting or not getting pregnant.
This jerk did not get you pregnant. You both got you pregnant. It isn't just up to one of you to use contraception, but both of you. He can wear a condom and you can take the pill at the same time. One does not cancel out the other.
Forget this jerk and focus all your attention on bringing up your bean and be a fantastic mother.
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