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writes:How do move on from my first love?I feel it is so stupid to still be asking this question after breaking up with my first love about 10 years ago. I'm now 25 years old and married with 2 kids but still dream of my first love. Our relationship lasted on ly for about 1 1/2 years. I was like 14 years old back then and we were just so in love. We broke up because our parnets has been harrassing us and we can't go out of our house.Ater we broke up, I had 2 short term raltionships and then got pregnant and got married.I know I should be ok by now.. but really I still am not. I still search his name on Facebook or even in yahoo , long to hear his voice and stare at his picture. Sometimes , I even regret that I got married...I felt like there is still a possiblity if only I didn't jump on marrying at such a youg age of 18. I miss him bigtime up until now and everytime we communicate( bout some common friends or other not so important things) I feel in love again. My biggest issue now is how to move on and do it ASAP because I'm afraid it's like cheating my husband in my thoughts and in my dreams. I feel stupid and crazy..dreaming that one day we will see each other again and start again.
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reader, Deedee13 +, writes (1 August 2011):
Deedee13 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks Kim!yah I already deleted him on my fb friends list years back but funny is I still check/ search his profile and pics. I guess what made me feel like there is chance is that our common friends say that I look lke her new gf.. making me feel like he is not over me yet too. AND just last year he also gave me a DVD compilation of asian love stories and some DVDs for my kids. AGAIN, making me feel like he's just not over me yet.I love it a lot when people still links us but I hate it too coz it makes me feel more frustrated. and on making my husband know about this, he will definitely freak out! super! he is very allergic to him. He knew way back that I only dated him to forget about my first love. Really I would love to tell him but it might make things worst. I wanna do this silently and smoothly as possible..Do you think talking to my ex would let this all go? you know the closure thing?wouldn't that sound or look lke cheating?
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reader, kimberley-m  +, writes (30 July 2011):
hey there, ok first things first I know how you are feeling i've been there and sure most people have that one person they will never forget! there is no harm in remembering your relationship is made you who you are today, although the still communicating part could be why your not fully letting go of him delete his fb off ur friends list just focus on your relationship with your husband, be open and honest with your husband tell him your still communicated with this guy because if he finds out you kept it from him then the trust in your relationship will go away! and as for the getting over your ex there is no right or wrong answer, people move on in different ways try talking to someone it might make you feel better to have it out in the open but remember this you and your ex broke up for a reason and u cant fix something that has already been broken a long time ago.
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