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age
30-35,
*nsexygal
writes:So in my acting class there is a boy I like named tyler, he is tall and blond, charismatic, gorgeous, but he is white and im black!! Sometimes but very few times I have caught him looking at me and when I give him big smiles he smiles back! Sometimes but very few he does little playful things with me but he does with every girl im sooo confused! One time when I cried he lifted my chin up and said, hey girl; its ok and sung to me while he was practicing and then told me to talk to him at lunch about what went on but I was way to shy to then later on that day he asked me if I were ok and I said yes!!! During my show he said to me when he asked me to hold the door for him; could you hold the door for me baby, thanxxx! Sometimes when I smile at him he doesn't smile back! And when I won an award for acting school on the last day he told me congratulations and that I truly deserve it and he gave me a hug but after that it was awkward between he and I! One problem is that his friend likes me but I don't like him, do you think that because his friend likes me he wont go far with me????? When him and his friend that likes me were outside they were both looking at me and saying bye! And when I was outside by myself tyler( the white boy I like) said bye to me( only him) does he like me! Does he ever look at me I hope he looks at me while im not looking! I sashay and I wear the sexiest things! Im beautiful and I have the greatest personality what is his problem???
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reader, Abella +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Absolutely spot on! Both Tyler and his friend have spotted you. Tyler's friend was the first to identify his interest and so Tyler held his tongue. Though Tyler's friend doesn't have a chance, obviously.Nice guys will hold back from showing too much overt interest in a girl if they already know that their best friend is smitten. If you don't like Tyler's friend then continue to be courteous, but slightly more formal with the friend, so that no false impression of 'interested' can be inferred from the way you behave around this friend of the one you DO like.Being able to 'sashay' and wear the 'sexiest things' is not necessarily going to interest a guy in the right way. Some might think that too overt andtoo 'forward'. It is great that you have the confidence to describe yourself as having the 'greatest personality' might also give the wrong impression. Andhave some people thinking you are egotistical and over-confident (I am not suggesting that you are that - just that those descriptive words can lead to mis-understandings)Lets look at Tyler and his friend. And in view of the fact that you like Tyler especially - how do they 'present' themselves? And how do they dress?If Tyler is a conservative dresser thentoning down your 'sexiest things' and translating your dressing to 'conservarive' is not the answer either as then you will be hiding the real you. But do check out whether your dressing and the way you dress is too far different to any other girl in the school. Consult with a very honest no nonsense girl who will be utterly truthful. Ask her, 'what impression do I give when I wear my 'sexiest things' to schoool?'Because wearing things that are too overtly 'sexiest things' can be a little intimidating for some guys.Certainly you can try to catch Tyler's eye more often. If Tyler is on his own then seize the opportunity to ask him a question about something that was discussed in class. Or tell him where you willl be, such as, 'i'm heading over to the Library to study at 12.30 - perhaps I might see you there?' and give him the biggest smile with your eyes. If both Tyler And his friend turn up then make sure you reserve your eye contact for Tyler.Similarly if you can get Tyler alone then ask him about any assignment that you are not sure about, and really listen carefully to his answer. Then paraphrase what he just said, so there is no confusion about what he said, and then thank him, especially smiling with your eyes, looking directly at Tyler, when you do thank him. If, when you are elsewhere, and you see Tyler and his friend are togther, then smile directly at Tyler. And give the other guy a fleeting glance. Your interest will be noted. Then it is up to Tyler to make the next move.Best of luck with this.Abella
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reader, Abella +, writes (31 July 2011):
thank you for your follow up. That helped clear up that one! Sounds like you need to re-register your profile in DearCupid to avoid more confusion in the future? I'll now go back to the original question and consider my response. Thanks, Abella
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reader, rnsexygal +, writes (31 July 2011):
rnsexygal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNoo I am a girl and I like a boy named tyler! But his friend likes me but I don't like him! And im trying to understand if tyler likes me or not because I like him!
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reader, Abella +, writes (31 July 2011):
hi
I am a little confused about your profile. Are you in the process of changing from a guy into a girl?
You say this guy called you a 'girl'.
Is this guy a Gay guy or bi?
You mention that he shows interest in girls.
But he also shows interest in you - according to your profile a male person aged 16-17 profiled as rnsexygal
It is fine with me if you are currently identifying as a girl.
But i just need clarification so I can give you the best advice in the circumstances.
And if you are a guy, and you identify as a guy, then why would he call you a girl?
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