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writes: I've been broken up with my girlfriend for a little more than a month now and I'm still thinking about her all the time. We never had an official break-up, but we decided to slow down our relationship, and now she no longer contacts me. I've made attempts to contact her, but they haven't been met with much enthusiasm. I'm trying to get over her, but it is tough because eventhough we live in a big city, we work in the same building and workout at the same gym. I erased her phone number from my phone today. I think it bothers me so much because I am holding out hope that things may return to the way they were. This isn't my first break-up, but she was everything that I've been searching for. Does anyone have any advice on how to move on when someone is in such close proximity to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): I really hear you! My ex and I broke up 4 months ago and he lives 2 doors down and works in the next building. I'm having difficulty too...still! Hating and thinking of all the bad qualities doesn't seem to help. It's all about you. Concentrate on things that make you feel good, which have nothing to do with her. Exercise, try a new hang out, even by yourself. Definitely change it up, even if it's difficult..it will get easier. Do yourself a favor and try not to wonder if she's thinking about you. Remember that there are other women, LIKE ME, who are single, out there and looking for someone special (blowing you a kiss)!
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reader, StarNews +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Do you want to move on? It sounds like you do, but you are having second thoughts. What was the reason for the break up? I think you should tell her what you said in this letter. Communication is everything. Why let go of someone, not knowing if there is a chance it could still work? The only way you will have your answer is to tell her how you feel. Then if it doesnt work, at least you can say you tried and there will be no more doubt in your mind. She may not be showing much enthusiasm possibly because somewhere the romance died. Send her flowers, that should get a response. Then take it from there.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Dear, it seems to me that u really did care about this girl. You obviously werent the one to end it all and u feel the way u do because she didnt give u a good enough reason to end the relationship.
I agree with u that u should leave her alone. You have tried calling her and she isnt welcoming your calls or even calling herself. She did indicate that she needs space so give her all the space she needs.If she really likes u she will call u, i believe she has your number as well u arent the only one with hers. my own advise is that if she doesnt call u dont call her. move on.
i know you that it will be difficult for you because u work in the same place but with time it gets better. Its a shame she isnt welcoming your calls i would suggested u stay friends with her this would have made things easier in the office. but what i would do now is take her as a simply as colleagues at work. Talk to her only when it is necessary and work related. believe me things will get alot better.
In the meantime dear, go out and have fun with friends to take your mind off things.
All the best and happy holiday.
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