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writes: I am 30 and married for 3 years without children. My marriage was nothing I asked for as I did not love my husband initially but the love grew from his fondness and care for me. However now, he does not love me anymore. I say that because everytime we fight, I am the only one saying sorry, cheering him up and making things right again. He does not take the initiative. He is to a point where he does not even care if I am missing for days. I have tried many methods. Fighting - because he has said I am not verbal enough. Silence - as he has said he does not want to keep talking about our problems over and over again. Counselling - trying to make him understand my point of view by discussion. He doesn't listen. The only result I get is that I am the only one wrong in making the relationship miserable. Help. What do I do now? Reply to this Question
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (28 December 2005):
 If you have exhausted all of your options then you have to decide if this relationship is something that can get better or if it is time to be done with it. If your husband does not love you and you are not happy in the relationship it does not sound as if it is healthy for either of you to be together. I will say, however, I am not in favor of a marriage breaking up and that many times if marriage counseling does not work it is because both partners did not follow the advice of the therapist completely, or they need a new therapist that is more in tune with the couple and has a different approach to help them meet their relationship needs. The choice is yours, you have to do what is best for you, good luck.
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