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writes:i am the mother of a 12 yar old boy and as is he reaching teenage years he is starting to become aggressive in the last two weeks he has had two physical fights with his younger cousins who are too young to deal with him , my family is a close family and i am afraid he will be seperated and treated differently if this continues we have tried various forms of discipline but nothings working i am at a loss as to what to do i dont want him ending up a young thug with my family wanting anything to do with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2012): Is your son's father in the picture? If not, how long absent and why?
I believe the answers to these questions could be very helpful in determining the root cause(s) of your son's behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012): Hi. I would find out if there is an underlying cause before putting it all down to hormones. Start with the basics such as sleep. Is he getting enough. Diet, does he eat or drink things that might be hyping him up. TV and internet usage. Is he watching things that might be causing him to act out. Have there been any big life changes that might have affected him. Is he being bullied at school or receiving inappropriate attention from someone. All those things can manifest as aggression. If everything checks out OK. Then it is probably a temporary hormonal imbalance which is normal to a degree but if he really gets out of hand, then a visit to his doctor might be in order. As suggested already. Sport, especially contact sport is a great way for young lads to let off steam. My neighbour is a great rugby player to this day and that started because of his pent up aggression as a lad. But the reason for his aggression wasnt hormone related. Which is what`s prompted me to suggest you check out other reasons before assuming it is linked to hormones. My neighbour was bullied as a child and became very destructive before he was finally helped.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (14 April 2012):
 It sounds to me like he has too much energy. I suggest some sort of physical sport where the aggression is appropriate. If a person is naturally going to be aggressive you can't just tell them not to be, they need to be given an outlet in which they can release it.
I was an angry child and I started taking martial arts which really helped. It's also something he can do for a long time with very big life benefits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012): If its a new thing and never displayed any signs of anger before there could be some underlying issue that causes him to lash out in this way, like could he be being bullied in school or have anything on his mind?
he could have worries etc that are manifesting in this way as he doesnt know what other way to release it, boys arent good at explaining how they are feeling so if you get to the root of the problem in a non accusing manor and really listen to him you might find that is what is causing his behaviour
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