How do I make sense of this?

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Question - (12 November 2009)

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A male age 51-59, anonymous writes:

How do you deal with someone online who states they like you very much and want to get to know you better

they tell you they want to talk more later on in the day but are in a need to go out now.

Then you see them online and say hi, they don't respond. You know they have an old computer as they brought up when you were chatting on another service they also have. They said this chat service is better for them. Anyway when you don't get an online response. To show your continued interest you email them late at night to ask if they are okay.

Still no response. Is there a way to find out whats going on here? Can I send another IM/email to find out the reason why? If so is there a good way to phrase it?

Lastly with my upbringing my values taught me that not responding is rude, should I at all hold this against a person or not? What about lying, I sense maybe this person is interested but is lying about something, maybe they are ashamed about something? I don't know.