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writes: So the whole make out thing...I have the feeling that with my current boyfriend I'm going to have to act personally if i want to make out. But the problem is... I've never really done it before. so i probably seem like some little ignorant girl, but i honestly need all the help i get so that i can come out looking like somewhat of a professional. any help at all would be great. (like how to use the tongue..??) Thanks in advance! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): the first time i kissed my current boyfriend, it was neither of our first times, however he had kissed more experienced girls in the past where the guy i kissed in my past was very un-experienced so he couldn't tell me whether or not i was good. my current boyfriend told me i was okay, but i didn't keep up very well. he was trying to do a slow tongue kiss where i was going really fast i guess because i was nervous. he also told me that after you kiss someone you dont complain about it, you just accept the fact(and hopefully are happy with it) that you kissed him and continue on with your date. also, dont ever ask your boyfriend if you were good, its a major turn off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): i know this sounds like an old trick,
that everyone says to use...but it really works!
just spell out the alphabet with your toungue!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): hey, next time you are on a date, get close to him(movies are great for this), and if he doesnt make his move just go for it! start off with a normal kiss, then open your mouth, and just copy his movements.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): one tip, especially if you haven't french kissed yet and think you might want to [this is good if you already have, too. just for future reference.]
when you kiss, leave your lips parted just slightly. don't go for a full on open mouthed kiss - it might come off like he's smooching with a sea bass. which would be...not good.
so just a little parted lip action. this gives him access if he decides he wants tongue and eliminates the potential of an embarrassing his-tongue-crashing-unexpectedly-against-your-closed-lips scenario. if he doesn't get the hint from the parted lips after a while, then take the first step. since your lips will already be slightly parted this will be easier. flick your tongue lightly and gently against his lips if they aren't parted while he's kissing you. if they are parted then that means that he might be thinking about frenching too. if his lips are closed and you lick them lightly, he should get the hint. if he doesn't, maybe he's not comfortable yet. if his lips are parted too and you get tongue - don't pull back in surprise. and don't force your way in there either.
it's like....did you ever play footsie under the table when you were little with a sibling or a friend? it's like that, with tongues. start off light and go with what he does.
there's no exact formula to french kissing or making out. it depends on you, on your partner, on how close you are and how comfortable you are. there is no 'right' or 'wrong' so long as you both enjoy it [however, there are some things that are safe bets no one will enjoy. lol]
the best thing is to be open. it might be tough and a little embarrassing at first, but it may take you admitting that you've never done this before so you're not sure how to start to get him going. he may have had another girlfriend who always initiated frenching and he's used to that and so he wonders why you're not. or he could just be the type of guy who waits a while. mention it - the more you trust each other the easier it will get to talk about these things. and the more you trust each other the better stuff like this will be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): while it is all preference. one thing that all of my previous bfs have liked is when you pull on their lower lip with your teeth very softly. i also like to open my mouth against his (our lips are touching), as though I am going to put my tongue in, and then i don't. this really gets them. you can also try licking his lips gently and running your tongue against his teeth. all before actually touching tongues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): hey girl,i have been with my boyfriend for a year and still hardley ever use tounge action..its just something i dont like to do.if you are unsure or not ready you should wait before making out.if he really likes you he will respect ur desicion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question1'm 16...
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (30 June 2007):
 Can you let us know how old you are please before i chose what the responce to your question should be.
Take care.xx.
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reader, angony amy +, writes (30 June 2007):
the whole point in 'making out' is all about personality, if you prefer kissing without tongues then, sit your boyfriend down and tell him that your not comfortable with using tongues, but if you do want to use tongues then, its very simple, when you kiss slowly slide your tongue in and out of his mouth, but dont just slip it in, lick his tongue, and if that dosnt work then, just slide your tongue into his and he should do the same. xx
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