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writes:Hey i have a question, i have been friends with benifts with this guy for about 10 months, and he is 19 and im 16. he is a very very attractive and sweet guy, i have very strong feelings for him and he claims he likes me too. but there are 2 problems. 1) he doesn't want to get to serious at the moment because of my cousin and our families are really close and our age. how can i rush into the seriousness2) he came to see me the night after my birthday cause its pretty much usual that we hook up every few weeks. but this time after he completly stopped talking to me. when i text him he gave me one word answers and then when i ask him if hes going to my cousins house (while im there) he always sais no cause hes going through some stuff. hes also quitting his job at the end of the month could that be why hes acting different? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys, you were right, he got himself a girlfriend. any tips on how to help me move on? :/
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Hun, sounds like he has lost interest you you. Time to get serious... move on with your life and STOP being a friend with benefits. That is not the way to build a relationship with anyone.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 He doesn't want things to get serious, but he's been having sex with you? That sounds like an excuse, not a valid reason.
You're making everything way too easy for him. He doesn't have to put in the effort a relationship requires, yet he still gets to mess around with you. For the last 10 months that's how it's been because he has no incentive to want more than fwb.
Now he's distant and giving you one-word answers. I'm sorry to say it sounds like he's either lost interest or found someone else, and the best thing you can do now is move on. Don't try to contact him, let him text you first.
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