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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay, so the situation here is that I've always liked guys since elementary school and I didn't even know what the term "gay/lesbian/bisexual" meant until I was in 7th grade. (Yes, I lived a sheltered life, but that's not the point here) And even until today (I'm a senior in high school and almost 18), I think about my future and I can only see myself married to a guy with his children. But when I started high school, I got really close to this female friend who's a tomboy and is often mistaken for a guy. She's actually really kind-hearted and understanding and a great listener, so as we grew closer, we began sharing all of our personal issues and we began talking a lot. That was when I started feeling the need to always be with her, talk to her, and stay by her side. If people called her a cross-dresser/lesbian and other such names, I'd be the one to feel offended and she'd be the one who would let it go easily. A lot of people think she's lesbian, but she tells me that she's straight and that there were a few guys that she liked. Anyways, at first, I was concerned about what people would think of our close relationship, but now I just don't care anymore.I thought it was something I'd get over easily. And after a summer of not seeing each other and a year of having only a few classes together, I got over it, mainly. But recently, I've been talking/seeing her a lot, and that same feeling is coming back. I really began questioning myself. No matter how much I try to look at it, I am not attracted to other girls. At all. And even though I really like my best friend, I don't like the idea of having sex with her or doing anything of the sort. I like this innocent, sweet feeling of always being by her side. Is that weird?Also, we've gotten so close to the point that we tell each other that we act like a married couple, but I really don't know if I should let her know about my feelings. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): This same thing happened between a female teacher and me. I felt attracted to her the more time I spent with her (in school, mind you) and never felt that way and knew I never would about any other girl because I had previously been straight my whole life. I realized I looked at her more as a family member, and maybe that's the same thing you're doing now. If so, you'll realize it soon enough.
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