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*eskimaCerita
writes:I've been seeing this guy for about a month and I'm really attracted to him, we have tons in common and he's really easy to be around. The only problem is that he's not very 'hands on,' the most i've got out of him has been a short kiss before I had to leave. I know for sure that he's interested in me and he's said before that he has trouble expressing himself and that he really does like me. I don't think he's had much experience of being in a relationship and I think he might just be slightly anxious about getting intimate; how do I make him feel more confident? Thanks for reading, any advice would be much appreciated -H xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, Pleh  +, writes (5 September 2011):
The best advice from where I'm standing is don't rush it! Take things at his pace if you want to keep him. If he's never been intimate with anyone before, he's going to be nervous - fear of the unknown is only a self preservation instinct, nowadays used to save ourselves from rejection and getting our feelings hurt or looking like a fool.While I've said don't rush him, that doesn't mean avoid physical contact at all costs, quite the opposite. Why don't you try initiating some intimacy? It's very likely he's nervous that YOU don't want physical contact with him. Start off with holding hands, linking arms, putting your arm around his waist and just generally holding him. If he's comfortable with that and enjoys it, try steadily increasing the level of contact.Hope it helps!
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