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writes:Hey there, I am gay and I am attending a community college and in a public speaking class there's this guy that both intrigues me and I am convinced he's gay. I can't explain but just like other gay men, there's just a certain feeling you get when you know its a gay man without even knowing him, many refer to this as a "gaydar" so whatever you want to call it... I am usually right. So I've never spoken to him, but when he gave his last speech he looked a lot at me... and I spoke to his sister. How do I make my move with him without coming too desperate? I have eight weeks left of free time to speak to him. How do I do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Well... if you're BOTH in the same class... you already have something in common. Ask him if he wants to study together or if he can 'help' you on some assignment (even if you don't really 'need' the help).
Once you are then together you can then get to know him better as Blode30s suggests. You can find out what he's majoring in, what other classes he has, etc. Later in the semester you can find out what classes he plans to take the next semester... and possibly get into the same classes - if it makes sense to do so and you're getting closer/friendlier etc.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): desperation is very subjective and different for everyone...my uncle is gay and 49...he thinks that he can tell who is and isn't gay...But he drives himself crazy thinking about it because it is difficult to have to deal with wondering about it...However as someone who has been in your position I would advise you that you have nothing to lose at this point...Just treat this person like you would anyone else and start a convo...go from there..you may be suprised as to what may occur...good or bad...but the class as well as things that are going on around campus are a good way to go. If you want to suggest something you like to do or have been wanting to...it may pay off and he may suggest that you guys hang out...
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reader, luxy  +, writes (17 October 2010):
8 weeks is quite a while, but we have all been there when there hot you just want them straight away. Oh the waiting game is such a pain.
I would say just smile and gain eye contact a few times until you feel confident enough to go sit near him or just say hi. Maybe he wants to speak to you but feels shy.
Your doing a public speaking class , so this is really good for you! approaching someone and talking to them, asking them why they decided to do the course, whats their name, is this all your doing at the moment or do you have a job do a sport.
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