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female
age
41-50,
*oneybee83
writes:I got legally married 6 months ago. My parents nor my husband's parents are aware of the wedding. Since we belong to different communities it took some time to get my husband's family to accept me. Now a social wedding is being planned for the month of June. However his parents are not taking any initiative in the event. They said they want it done in their own customs which my family has agreed to but my in laws are not giving any help to my parents about how to go about it. Since my husband currently is staying with his parents as his job has relocated him to the same city each day his parents tell him that he will divorce me as my husband is hot tempered. Every day they cry and tell my husband that i as a girl am good but he gives up easily and his rude behavior will make us split. My husband and i like a normal couple have our tiffs but we always resolve it and things are fine. But these days its due to his parents that we fight. He is now insecure that he is not good enough for me so i might leave him. I love and respect my husband. As of how i see it his parents are trying to scare him i guess not on purpose but they guess that he might just call off the wedding. We've been married for 6 mths and since our folks are not aware we live separately. at times i feel my husband never understands how i feel. I want this to work and am willing to put efforts into this. I am just scared and feel alone. I do not know how should make my husband believe that i am not leaving him
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reader, garcypher  +, writes (5 April 2011):
If marriage doesn't make him feel secure then I'm not sure what will. People in general are more insecure now though than ever before for all kinds of reasons. Sounds like you two, as adults, should be taking care of your own affairs without parents interfering in your private lives. Your husband should know his own mind and make his own decisions on his future. You should both talk privately.
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