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writes:As wrong as this sounds, I read my boyfriends messages.. and I found out he is cheating on me. Planning on paying a prostitute $30 an hour for sex, and planning on hooking up with her, I would of never guessed! He seems soo sweet, and wanting too do things, and he gets super jealous of my guy friends, and I want him to own up.. over time he won't own up on his own.. How do I make him own up with out telling him I read his messages?Because besides the cheating I have no other way of dumping him.. and if I do it is silly things.. I truly love him so much! We are even getting married soon, but if he is doing this behind my back.. I don't want to marry him.. soo HELP!! How do I make him own up without saying much about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): You shouldn't even be thinking about marriage if this is what your relationship is like: him cheating, you sneaking around behind his back, and then being unable to talk openly and honestly, and your staying with him only to protect your secret that you invaded his privacy. This is ridiculous. You should call off the wedding immediately and indefinitely, and tell him that yes you invaded his privacy and snooped and that was WRONG of you, and take full responsibility for that. but as a result you found out his secret activities which are WRONG of him so he needs to take responsibility for that. So you are both in the wrong. Then once you get it out in the open, then see what happens to decide if there is any future for this relationship, let alone a marriage.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (16 March 2012):
 This is confusing.... He cheated on you with a hooker and you are thinking about marrying him???? Ummm no I am with the other poster here, You should just walk away from this one.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2012): Why do you need him to own up? I really don't mean this in a rude way, but it's something to think about. Is there a reason you need him to own up? Is it because you want to know the whys, you want to hear his story? Do you think you might want to hear the story, forgive him, move on, and continue?If you know that he has cheated and this is an absolute deal breaker for you, then you know that there is only one option, and that is to break it off with him. You don't need him to own up to anything, you know in your heart why you can't be married to this man or continue with him. First find out what you want. To give him a chance and try to work things out? Or just be done with it. You may have to be honest with him if you want to work it out and continue. If not, you don't need to tell him anything.
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