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How do I make amends with her family??

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Question - (6 September 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 6 September 2006)
A male , anonymous writes:

My Mexican gf of 3+ years recently visited my home country here in Ireland and despite the exquisite trust that her parents had put in here and me, we had sex (once very, very briefly with no protection and then several times with a condom).

To those that don't know. Mexicans have a very strict culture regarding relationships and marriage.

My gf, upon returning to Mexico then became very paranoid and anxious and believed herself to be pregnant, and in desperate fear, she told her parents about what we had done. Her parents are very disappointed in her but are showing her support.

However, I have been living in a sense of fear since she told them and I don't know whether to open dialogue with them or try to communicate with them about it or what to do.

It has always been our intention to get married soon, regardless of whether she is actually pregnant or not.

She plans to have a pregnancy test on her birthday in the coming week, and until then, we will not know the truth of this.

How should I continue with this? What should I do next? Be she pregnant or not, I have to somehow make amends with her parents and family for my part in all this. Sometimes, I just want to run away from the responsibility of it, but that would be cowardly and show very little love all things considered.

Please please help!

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A female reader, snowbird Canada +, writes (6 September 2006):

snowbird agony auntWhy don't you send them a hand-written letter informing them of your intentions. Tell them that you love their daughter and she is so very precious to you and that you did not mean for this to happen. Tell her you are standing by her, and hope to marry her no matter what happens, and whether she is pregnant or not. End the letter by thanking them for taking the time to read your letter, and say that you will respect them and their daughter always. Good luck, and best wishes for the future.

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