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writes:I havn't really got much goin' for me right now and i havn't come on here for sympathy like a tragic teenager BLAHBLAHBLAA.I know every teenager seems to be "depressed" atm, so its hard to tell whether it's genuine or not, but i really feel as though i need help, but don't know how to confront this with my mum as i hate talking to her about issues or problems[anyone for that matter].My mum knows that i've self harmed in the past, but i don't think she ever thought anything serious of it, it's been going on for years, but i've never had the courage to open up to anyone about it, as much as i've wanted to.I visited a few sights which showed all of the symptoms of depression, and i crossed off almost every box, which scared me a bit.I didn't really know where else to turn to,but i'm ashamed of asking my mum for help as i have no idea of how i'm going to let her know that i desperatley want to see a councillor, just so i can get my life back on track and start to make friends.thankyou x Reply to this Question
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reader, RHackett +, writes (31 May 2008):
 That is exactly what i thought when i self harmed and do u know what i did.....
I showed my mum the scars and saw a counciller lol
Its true i did!!!!
here is some advice that no councillor told me.
To stop self harming it needs to come from you, somewhere along the line you might just face up to the fact that the scars cause more damage than they repair. FACT.
If you feel like self harming then my advice is to try and feel loved by someone, ask for a hug and try and ignore the things or in my case, people that make u feel bad. stick on some headphones and think about how much better u will feel knowing that u have overcome these terrible feelings.
This is only my expieriance and may not appeal to u, to start by asking for help, how will they know if u dont tell them!!!!!
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reader, mylonleyself  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 Well if she knows about your self-injury problem it would be easier just to tell her you think you need professional help on your current situation. Just go and tell her "mom I think it would be a good idea if I could talk to a professional about my self-injury and my depression problem" I bet she will more than gladly take you to see someone. When my mom found out about my self-injury she asked me if I wanted to go talk to a professional, but I didn't feel like at the moment. I then asked her about her offer and she said ok. Hope this helps. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): I don't know how old you are, but if you self harm you really need to speak to someone urgently. Tell your mum your mum how you feel, show her the scars and ask her to make an appointment with your doctor. Don't feel ashamed, you haven't done anything wrong. It's not fair that you are feeling so bad. Your mum loves you, she would hate to know you are suffering all of this alone. Take care, all my thoughts are with you at the moment.
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reader, dizzie +, writes (15 May 2008):
hi there, in coming forward and sharing this problem you have taken the biggest step the rest is really easy. You say that your mom knows that you have self harmed in the past but does she know that you are still doing it, self harm is a very big cry for help and no your not like all the other teenagers out there you have got some deep seated issues that you need to tackle right now. you have no need to be ashamed in asking your mom to help you book an appointment at the doctors, if you feel so bad ask if you can go in by yourself and tell the doctor and ask the doctor to explain your situation to her on his own. im sure that your mom will be so relieved and proud of you for asking for help and im sure she will do everything that she can to support you. you havent really said what you are depressed about but what ever it is it is a big thing to you so and it need sorting out, if you cant face telling your mom just ask her to book an appointment and make an excuse and take it from there believe me she will want to know she is your mom. she aint an oger she loves you and she will want to help you and when the aapointment has been booked and your mom knows how you feel the first thing that she will want to do is hug you for being so brave as to recognise you have a problem that you need help with she wont condem you i hope you get this sorted and fast and instead of self harming try just for the time being holding on to some ice cubes it as the same effect. if you need to chat im always here for you try not to worry it will all work out even on your blackest days there is light at the end of the tunnel have faith mate take care
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 May 2008):
Go and see your GP. You don't need your mum to go and talk to him. Ring up, make an appointment and go see him. You can tell your mum that you went to see him and tell him what he said. Or if he tells you something that you can keep to yourself, you don't have to involve her.
Good Luck!! xx
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