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writes:Hey I'm a 17 year old girl and I really like someone aged 25. I understand that we're at different points in our lives and I may be a bit young for him at the moment but we really connect and get each other really well. I feel he's hinting at meeting up and going on some kind of date but is probably unsure whether to ask. I need help in knowing how to handle this or show I'm interested without embarrassing myself or embarrassing him. I really don't want to wait too long that he meets someone else and my chance goes, I see him twice a week at work and that's when we talk a lot - please help me know how to handle it. Do you think this age gap will matter?Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your all your answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2013): Wow... you guys realise that the OP is apparently from the UK, right? Meaning the age of consent is 16 as in most countries.
She is legally able to date whoever she wishes.
Is it wise? Probably not. But if it's a mistake then it is hers to make. And there really isn't so much difference between a 17 to 18 year old and someone in their mid 20's these days anyway.
Best of luck you OP.
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reader, Boost +, writes (27 September 2013):
I'm 6 years older than an ex of mine she was 17 at the time and her parents used to love me. I think the age gap matters to some people and not so much to others. We got on great and used to go everywhere together practically joined at the hip. They knew I cared about her and knew she was safe and knew I wasn't taking advantage of her so had no problem with it. So if you're mature enough about it an realise there is a gap between ages it can work out just fine. The only reason we didn't stay together is because both of us had family issues with people ill and dying, work and various degree college courses and such so couldn't give it what it deserved. We stayed friends and still speak all the time. If you've known him for a while then what have you got to lose. I see what people are saying but no one knows this guy better than you. If you think he'd look after you and care about you then go for it
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 September 2013):
 Tell him your parents like him… wait, do they know him? How do you know him? Is he a friend of a friend or a relative of a friend?
You know what? I'm certain he knows you have a crush on him. He's choosing not to do anything about it because he doesn't want to get into a relationship with you.
He's hinting at meeting up? How exactly is he hinting? All you'd have to say is 'yes, let's hang out' and he'd know he could ask you out.
P.S. getting embarrassed is just part of courtship. It happens. You have to take a risk and sometimes, it doesn't happen. Why would you be embarrassed and why would he be embarrassed anyway?
Crushes happen all the time. If you describe yourself as a 'girl' and are still worried about being embarrassed, then maybe you're just not at that stage of maturity to handle dating a guy who is 25. Life's timing sucks sometimes. Ah well.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 September 2013):
 Wow, I can't believe your parents would not only ALLOW their precious 17 year old teenage daughter date a 25 year old man, they said they would SUPPORT the idea. I know as a parent it wouldn't be even in the realm of possibility for one of my daughters. Be careful dear, it sounds like your parents are willing to throw you to the wolves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy parents think it's okay and said they would support it in this case
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 September 2013):
What do or would your parents say about your dating a 25 year old man?
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