A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear readers, I am a sophomore student and the problem is occurred with me and my classmate. I have everything that makes me feel certain that he really likes me. Like I overheard from his friends and by the way that he changed his status in fb etc. But I feel nothing about him. Ok, he is really a nice guy who treats me so well but I just don't interest. Actually I find that no one could make me feel that way right now. I had refused some guys before but I know that my way is so bad. I used to send him email to say that I don't want our relationship to happen. It's kind of cruel to him and later we are hardly faced as a friend. I don't want the history to repeat. You have any suggestion oon how to say or thway to do this nicely and softer? Or may be you have any other suggestion? Please do. If he come and confess to me ideally what to know how should I handle it. Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 I would suggest being honest. Tell him you appreciate his interest, and he's a really nice guy, but that you aren't interested in him that way.
When people try to be overly nice, they usually just end up prolonging the problem. You never tell them how you feel because you don't want to hurt them, but in reality it hurts them more because they can't get over you until you give them the definite "no."
As long as you don't laugh in his face, and are considerate of his feelings, you'll be fine. He'll appreciate your honesty even if it isn't the answer he's looking for.
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