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writes:Well after a messy end to my 4 yr relationship, I started seeing a lovely guy I'd met through friends. He treated me great, we got on well, and things were looking good. The my ex came back on the scene causing mayhem. And the guy just couldn't handle it and ended it. It remained civil and we still chat now and again.Thing is I think about him a lot. It gos away for a while but then sometimes it's all I do. If i see him I think about him for ages afterwards. If I date other guys I compare them to him etc. I don't want to feel like this. It's over.The relationship I was in for 4 years was my first proper bf, he was controlling etc and it ended after he cheated on me. Are my feelings for nice guy like this cos he treated me so different for my ex. We finished months ago, how do I let go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Truth be told you don't ever let go completely.. You move on and you change but sometimes the heart holds on and we don;t understand why.. It took me years to let go of my first love.. The trick is to understand the reason in life.. Someone once told me people come into your life for a reason, a season or forever and only time will tell. Maybe he was just there to show you that love can exist without pain and that there is hope.. Maybe he came into your life for a short time to teach you to live again. But only time will tell and maybe just maybe if things are meant to be you'll figure it out..in time..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): Wow, did it ever occur to anyone that the quote "let it go, move on" is over-rated. There are obvious reasons to some of these issues why people still have connections, it is because there os something they can still work out if they let thier fears and thier pride go. If two people are still at time have that communication, they are both carrying anger or resentment to the fact they did really care at one time, to me that is a sign there is something still there. If they didnt care, and thats on any level, they would had disappeared or would not be part of these stories...sometimes its not just about moving on, but holding on to faith, hope...but with signs and good health
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reader, roadman +, writes (1 January 2009):
 sometimes you never let go,but the feelings die down to a point where they no longer bother you as much..Some times this process takes years,but it will happen as new adventures come your way..
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reader, pietry  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 You don't let go. He was an important part of your life and it always will be. You need to accept it inside you as experience and past. Everything that happens to us defines us and makes us who we are. You can't deny what happened, you can keep it there somewhere and don't let it affect you too much. It's normal for such a long relationship to feel as a point of reference. Time will make it better.
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 No Matter what it is hard you have a past together I am going through the same thing and it is hard as heck but what I have found to help is to busy myself doing thing and to not sit around and dwell on him or the past take up a hobby meet new people try to start all over with new places to go and new people to hang out with I found that helps .
GOOD LUCK !!!!
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