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writes:I was recently sexually assaulted. After the incident, I was in hysterics, and for some reason, I called my ex boyfriend crying for help. He picked me and my best friend up and took me home. My best friend told him what happened. All he said to me was that he hoped I pressed charges. A few days later, he texted me asking if we could stop ignoring each other (as he just dumped me 2 months ago).I am not 100% over him, that is for sure, but seeing him now hurts 100 times more than it did. I loved him, I trusted him and he was the person I always went to for comfort. But now he's gone, when I need that kind of comfort the most. Not the comfort from friends or family, but the comfort of love and being held by that person and feeling safe again.He hasn't asked me once how I'm doing or if I'm ok. That hurts me as well. But I think I just miss him and his comfort, and I miss him in general.What do I do about this? I have this to deal with, as well as repercussions of the assault, but at times, they seem to go hand in hand to increase my levels of anxiety. What do I do to let go of my ex? I have to see him every day unfortunately. How do I stop letting him control my emotions. I'm still in love with him and just want him back, but I know that can't happen. With the repercussions of the assult, it's hard to have to deal with my ex as well. What do I do?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (10 November 2011):
 I think that you need to talk to a counselor or therapist. I'd also recommend you talk it out on the RAINN.org website. They have a phone line you can call any time of the day or night as well as an online chat room.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (10 November 2011):
 Time will heal all. Two months isn't very long. It will be hard if this man is still in your life. He's isn't yours any longer, he will soon find another girlfriend to love. Sorry, but this is the reality that you will have to deal with.
Search online for "Dealing with a breakup" or "Getting over your ex-boyfriend) There are thousands of articles with tips and advice. You need to concentrate on finding new things to do. Join a club, a gymn, go back to school, anything to stop thinking about him and start thinking about you. He dumped you. He hurt you. You deserve better. Make a promise to yourself, that you will never let him hurt you again.
There is a wonderful future waiting for you. There is a guy out there who loves you, but you can't seem him because you are too involved with your ex-boyfriend. Work on making you the best you that you can be. Sort out your career, travel the world. Do anything you can to return your focus to yourself and what's best for you. Do not stay at home alone when you have family and friends that love you and care.
You don't need his support. Your best friend is there, she will be there to hold your hand. Please contact any Rape/sexual assault groups in Canada if you need someone to help you over the trauma of support.
He didn't want you, and girl, I KNOW, you don't bloody well need him. Now go and make you proud of you.
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