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writes:How do I get over my ex boyfriend? He has made it clear that he doesn't want to be with me due to issues we've had in the past but everytime he looks at me, I know he still has strong feelings for me. And this is making it hard for me to let go. I don't want to let him go but obviously I have no choice. I feel as though he and I are destined to be together but things always got in the way. Is this god's way saying we are not meant to be or his way of testing our relationship and see if we are strong together. We even have a 4 month old baby together. This is such a mess and not good for my head!! Aahh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys! I'm going on holiday this week, this will keep my mind active and off my ex! Lets just hope I feel much better when I get back!
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (6 September 2010):
Well i say he is a very for himself! and you have a baby together! you cant hold him by force it only makes things more complicated i say give him his walking papers and let him see down the road what he has missed out on if he does? i know it's hard for you to let go of someone you dearly love! but you do move on and do get past the pain in time.
you'll see and if it is meant to be he will be back? but trying to hang on only makes them rebel against you. men are not attracted to woman who beg are really try to hang on it's not attractive to them they like a challenge so give him one you aint got anything to lose show him what you are made of give him a taste of his own medicine!!
Best Wishes!
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reader, romany +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Thats good advice by LLindy, and I'd just like to agree with her that he wouldn't have been so blatent about not wanting to be with you if he dint mean it.
I'm really sorry your going through this, its pants int it, but I find the best way of getting over someone, is to get out with the girls, leave your mobile at home, big mistake is partying and dialling/texting, been there and done it, and all that happened was.... I regretted it, for weeks.
When it happened to me, I was devastated, how could anyone love him more than I did, I thought i'd never get over it, but then I met someone who loved Me more than he did, and everything became clear.
Make the decision in your heart to move on, and make your head enforce it. It sounds impossible, but its the way it works.
Goodluck.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 "He has made it clear that he doesn't want to be with me" - this is what he wants.
"everytime he looks at me, I know he still has strong feelings for me." - this is what you think he wants
He's been clear with what he wants, you're just having a hard time letting go and accepting that it's over so you interpret the way he looks at you the way you want.
He could still have feelings for you but that doesn't mean he still wants to be together.
How do you get over him?? Apart from keeping busy with other things in your life, you have to accept that the relationship is over. You should ask yourself...why do I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me...
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (6 September 2010):
 If he told you that he doesn't wanna be with you, then he doesn't want to be with you. Its the hard truth, but he wouldn't have put it that way if it weren't true.
Some good things to get over your ex include:
1. Keep yourself busy, when you are busy with other things then its less time he's on your mind (whereas if you're not busy its more time you have to dwell on him)
2. Go out with your single girl friends, that way you won't be reminded of relationships. Going out with your taken girl friends may be tougher on you. So have a girls night :)
3. Don't accept any offers from him to sleep with you. It sounds weird, but when exes sleep together it gets the question in heads of "will we date again?" and its harder to get over someone when you're under them.
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