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writes:Hi everyone. I'm just wondering if any of you had any advice on letting go of hate and disappointment u harbour for an ex. Like, if they really let u down in ways they promised they never would...how do u accept that and learn to move on from it. Hate is an active feeling and i just wish i could think of him and feel nothing. But the anger is overtaking me at the moment and i dont know how to get past it. I appreciate any helpful guidance with this! Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): My ex abandoned me with a six month old baby when I was 22. I was devastated. I had a mortgage to pay and childminder as I worked full time. I clawed my way back up somehow. I kept a journal and worked through all my emotions.
I was so angry and hurt and betrayed and felt like a failure. I was trapped in an awful situation. It is so hard and so painful but when you piece yourself back together it's fantastic!
I am so much happier and whole without him. You will be too. You have to have faith and believe it will be ok..... This experience was one of the worst things that ever happened to me. I draw from it that I can get through in life when things go wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): From experience I truly did despise my ex for abandoning our two children but I prayed for a better heart.When you hate somebody it really takes away from who you are as a person and I had to learn to look pass all he had done to our family and accept it and move on.But I forgave him we tall on and off our children are grown but I wont waste another day on hatred life is to short and beautiful to waste time on people who just aren't worth the wrinkles in your face.Kill him with a smile and kindness.??
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): Don't accept it. Just work through it.Anger is a normal stage of the grieving process (research it on-line: they are several stages).You seem to be at the Anger and Bargaining stage.Next one is Depression/Reflection/Loneliness.No one ever said that this is an easy process. It is hard. And all the steps (albeit the last ones and even they could be filled with sadness) are hard.But you will get there. You will come out on the other end and may not be stronger (I'm not), but I do feel a bit wiser. Hopefully this gained wisdom will help you make better choices in the future?In the meantime, you need to realise that you're dealing with grief and betrayal. And they are not easy to deal with. Hugs! ps:Maybe you could become both stronger and wiser! Then you'd have done one better than me ;)
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