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female
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anonymous
writes:hey, i really need some help! Been with my boyfriend with 2.5 years, and live together with 2 other housemates. I havent felt that things are right for a long while but recently its been even worse. hes always been v opinionated and argumentative. We have 3 big argments in the last 3/4 weeks - first time, i was out having a good times with my friends when he tried to start an argument with me over txt msg about nothing at all. he does this most times i go out and i decided not to put up with it, and told him i was fed up of him doing that. he apologised and said he wouldnt do it again. the next week, we had some friends over, and we had all been drinking, and he made some very (loud) sexual comments about me which i found extremely offensive. When i confronted him, he was mortified, said he couldnt remember and said sorry and that he wont do it again, even though i was close to leaving him. and finally last weekend, he locked himself in my room when i went downstairs and wouldnt let me in, and i could hear him typing on my computer. i felt really scared by this especially as i can never stand up to him. afterwards, he said sorry and that he wouldnt do it again for the third time. i was so angry that I called a break for this week, as we are both back with our parents for the week. i really want to leave this destructive relationship but i finish uni in 5 weeks and have all my exams coming up - i cannot afford to be distracted by a break up, nor do i want to lead him on. Also we live together, although i am planning on moving back with my parents (2 hours away) after uni has finished. in the mean time, i have no idea what to do or say to him?? Im scared of him too - i dont think he would hit me, just scared he will get aggressive. xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Take a time out /break and concentrate on your coming exams and leave everything to decide after the exams.
Just be a bit more patient and tolerate him for those few weeks. You don't have to let him know yet what you have decided to do with him.Allow him to do whatever he likes as long as he does not hurt you physically.
Try to act normal.
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