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writes: i just wonderd if anyone could tell me how do you know if a boy loves you?? well my boyfriend kisses me and we spend ages looking into eatchothers eyes and he puts his arms round me you think he loves me?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Peterk5699  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 ChiRaven said it well. Love is indeed more than being held close by an arm or a kiss. It is also a mental/psychological thing.
Love is trust, loyalty, caring, affection, saying things and meaning it, standing up for your partner, commitment, love and God knows how many more things.
It is also very confusing but that's what makes it so interesting.
As the years go by you'll figure out what it is.
Good luck on your journey through the tunnel of love
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Love is a LOT more than just physical displays of affection. Two people show love for one another in a whole bunch of different ways. They show it in respect. They show it in getting to know one another and in demonstrating that they know and understand what the other wants and needs ... not just physically but in ALL aspects of life. He should be the kind of a guy who can find out, without directly asking, if you're the kind of a girl who would be delighted if he brought you a single rose some time just as a present, for no special reason.
They show it in loyalty, in always standing up for one another. They show it in trust, in knowing that even if somebody at school says she saw him with another girl at the mall last Saturday you're not at all worried because you know it's not a threat to you as a couple, any more than it would be if somebody saw you with a guy. It takes time and effort to build those things, but that's what love is made of. That, and a whole lot more.
Believe me, it's NOT just physical.
You'll know if when you find it. Or, better to say, when you build it.
Keep trying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): There is no scientific way to tell if someone loves you - but you should go by how he treats you as to an indicator of whether he cares.
He should treat you well and with respect.
He shouldn't call you names or puts you down or hurt you physically.
He should spend quality time with you and take an interest in the things you do.
He should be kind and affectionate towards you.
He shouldn't pressure you into doing anything you don't want to (like sex - and you are under the legal age of consent anyway, but if you do use protection please!) and accept your decision when you say no to something.
If he does all those things, makes you feel good about yourself and you feel good being with him then I'd say that it's pretty fair to say that he cares for you - but whether he loves you is something that only he can decide!
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