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writes:me and my boyrfrien have been going out for quite a while now i only ever see him on the weekends becuase of school and things, so i spend more time at home than with him, we both have msn and bebo but he never reply's back to me or nothing, i have asked him in person why he does this and he said he just cant be bothered, and i was like so whats the point in us going out if you cant be bothered and he said he'll promise he'll talk to me more but he hasnt and its got me really angry so i text him and try too talk to him more but he just doesnt write back. He only writes back if i ask him if we are still going out and then i never speak to him after that until i see him in person. And he says he really loves me but im like if you love me you would want to talk to me. So i am not sure where i stand with him or what he really does feel for me? any thoughts ??
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reader, Gabbiee. +, writes (2 July 2008):
Gabbiee. is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well we've been going out for nearly 3 months yeah and its the longest relationship either of us have had. He's like very outgoing and wild when other people are around, but when it's just me and him he goes all shy and quiet around me and im 14 and he's like 13, and ive spoken to quite alot of his mates and they have said that he doesnt really get girlfriends, so im not so sure about the cheating part, but ill ask him when i see him next if he is.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (2 July 2008):
 If he's going to be like this it could mean he has another girl on the side. He's showing signs of it I'm afraid.
Next time you see him just ask him if he's seeing another girl. If he says firmly but not hysterically/over-reactively "No" then he isn't. If he stutters or shouts then he probably is. Be careful how you go about it though.
I think you should dump him now. Yeah, it may be hard but you're still young with many years ahead of you and that includes many more boys who are better than any cheat.
He's not worth it. No cheat is worth wasting your time on.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): How long have you been going out? How old are you two? Is he a shy person? Or very outgoing? These questions can play real part on his attitude with you. More info please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Hmm, I have a SOMEWHAT similar problem with my bf. Let me ask you this. What kind of person is your bf? is he a shy guy at all? Just how long have you two been going out? I feel the same frustration with mine in that, whenever I text him, he never seems to text back unless I ask if something's wrong! We hardly ever see each other either it feels like, and idk I actually kinda feel neglected sometimes (however at the same time I know he is a very reserved-type of person, who hates initiating things and is afraid of "smothering" me). Perhaps you should tell him that. One of the nights you're with him, instead of just asking why he does it, TELL him just how angry and neglected it's making you feel, and that you feel in order to even establish "love" there has to be way more communication between you two...
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