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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i dated this guy on and off for about a year and we were, still are, truly in love he cheated three times. i hooked up with someone when we were broken up. we faught alot. but near the end, around september (we dated december 2006 - december 2007) we started getting along a lot more. but december 24th we broke up because he hear that i was sleeping with someone, which i wasnt, but he (lets call him .. D) acts impulsively so he broke up with me.in order for me to move on, i jumped right onto the next guy (HUGE mistake, but lets call him.. T) so i was seeing T, then we broke up in february. but when D found out about T he asked me about him (like in january) but i lied about him because i was scared of D finding out just incase i ever had a chance with him. So in january, D wanted to get back together, i said no cause i was scared of letting my heart go to him again, then in february he wanted to get back together, i said no for the same reasons, then i broke up with T and started hanging out with D again in march but realized we werent going to work out, although i still loved him so much.Then realizing that i was still not over D, i went out with this guy (We'll call him R) and we're still dating, its been a month now. But im still not over D and i do like R but not really that much. Hes the same age as me (grade 10) but his birthdays in december so hes almost a grade 9, so hes really immature which makes it hard to be with him, and he acts to clingy and lovey and i just dont feel comfortable with him like i did with D.Now D wants to get back together with me, and i want to be with him. i know i need to break up with R. but i feel bad for this whole situation. I really have myself stuck here because what if me and D have a rocky relationship again. but i really do love and miss him, and its been almost 5 months that we've been broken up, so how do i know if ill ever get over him if im not yet :(should i go for it?* sorry for the length
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): First, you need to ask yourself why you are dating other guys when you are not over D. So you like R but 'but not really that much'-why are you dating him then? You should feel bad about this situation as you have been so caught up in your own feelings that you have ignored the feelings of others close to you. The first thing you should do is speak to R and let him down easy. Remember, he may not be your Knight in shining armour but you made the decision to date him, so be respectful of his feelings. No one can make the decision about going back with D for you that is something you'll need to do yourself. What ever happens good luck but never use date random people as a way of getting over an ex as it's not nice or clever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): You between T and RD is TURD
You between D and RT is DURT
You between R and DT is R U D T
Honey, you figure it out, you have so much drama going on here with all three of these boys it is a wonder you can find your socks and shoes, or shoes as the case may be ....
You can chose your own love life, every woman gets the love life she deserves.....because she can always chose to stay or go or just stand back and go with the flow.
The decision is yours alone to make....Good Luck
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