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writes:I have been seeing my boyfriend for over 3 years, he was my 1st boyfriend, intially i thought i loved him, i just loved being with him and spending all my time but in the last year i don't find him attractive but he is the most sweetest and he would do anything for me. i appreciate him and i relaly care about him. this will sound strange but sometimes i find him attractive but he is not my type, but his personality and his warmth is so genuine and so true. i am confused. i talk to him every day will see him atleast once a week as he lives an hour drive away from me. i care about him deeply and i am always worried about him but how do i know i love him? what should i be feeling? when i think of the future i can see him in it becuase i know he will do his best to keep me happy but will i truly be happy if i don't find him truly attractive? i know i sound selfish but i don't want to lead him on if were both going to be unhappy. Reply to this Question
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 It sounds like you just fell out of love with him. It's sad when this happens, but c'est la vie..
How does he feel about you? If the feeling is mutual then you could break up nicely but still stay friends. One of my friends recently broke up with his girlfriend of 3 and a half years and they're best friends now, it was just that the attraction was gone.
You could see how he feels about a break if you're not sure. See if you can go a few months without him as a boyfriend.
Good Luck
xx
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