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*ardLove
writes:To start: I am just over eighteen and still inexperienced with matters of the heart, I have dated quite a few girls and they all said they loved me but I never really felt it back.Now there is this girl who I have been friends with for maybe four years, I always thought she was amazing, you know, just a good friend. It wasn't until a few months ago that I began having feelings for her. I think about her a lot now, and anytime I am around her I feel really happy. I hate to say that I love her because I do not know how exactly that feels.There problem lies with this: I told her how I felt, but she has a boyfriend who is truthfully a great guy, and she told me that she doesn't like me in that way.Which I understand completely because I never felt intimate towards her until a few months ago.So I decided I needed some space and we kept in loose contact for about three months... now however I see her on a daily basis at the university. She makes comments about how im just like her boyfriend (in the good respects), how he is such a jerk, she has been hugging me a lot, saying I love you in a friendly manner to which i never respond back (i just don't believe a person should say it unless they are sure of it.So what I am asking is how do I deal with a situation like this, I thought some space would help and it did for a time, she is still a great friend of mine, but when im around her I am confused and it hurts, I mean what do I do to keep our friendship and not feel this discomfort?
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reader, HardLove +, writes (11 October 2009):
HardLove is verified as being by the original poster of the question she doesn't like that with other people though, so i think you may be right
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Hmmm... I really hate to give anyone false hopes, but are you certain her feelings have not changed towards you? You MAY have planted a seed with her about getting together.. one she hadn't considered before you mentioned her interest.
Does she behave that way with others? If she says he boyfriend is a jerk, she may be trying to plant a seed with you in return, but from the safety of "joking" and "just friends", in case you aren't interested anymore.
What do you think?
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