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writes:hello..I'm 16 and ever since I was quite young I've had a problem which is that i find it very difficult not to lie in various situations. I do it most of the time to make myself sound like a more interesting person because i've always been afraid that people won't like the real me and they'll find me boring or whatever or to get myself out of bad situations. I've lost so many good friends over this after being found out to be lying about certain things and some of my boyfriends have broken up with me after they've found out i lied to them.I know that the obvious way out is to simply stop lying, after all i'm in control of what i say to others but it's really not as simple as that because it's been a habit ever since I can remember and as much as I've tried I struggle to know what else to say because I'm actually a really shy person. I'm starting a new college in September and I want to become a more honest person not only so I can keep new friendships I make but also so i can simply feel better about myself because even though it's easy i feel bad about every lie i tell people and I know that after a while people can see right through me.Thank youx x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008):
Always be true to yourself and others or your life will be fake and so will you. TIP, remember to be a good liar one has to have a good memory.....truth will always find it's way out ...ALWAYS, even if it takes many many years. Be proud of who and what you are, do not try to be liked, just like yourself and the rest will follow. In life some people won't like you.. that's up to them ,who gives a monkey's! but others will like you, but you can guarantee one thing NOBODY likes a LIAR. look on the bright side your half way there to truth, you admit that you lie...the worst liars are the ones that lie to themselves and wont admit the truth. Good luck and p.s i like you already for telling the truth about yourself!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 Live a life that you don't need to mislead people and lie. Sometimes people begin developing this habbit because of avoiding confrontation or saying anything that may look bad upon yourself.
As you get older, you'll find people like you for you, not because of what you have or haven't done. You will always be you in whatever you're doing. What you might do may seem interesting, but it's still you doing it. What you do is for personal satisfaction, not because it may impress someone else.
Build your self esteem and self worth. The more you do so, the less impressing others will seem important.
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