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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I currently expecting his baby.He says he wants to be with me and I want to be with him.... but he is a sex addict.He seeks out other women so he can satisfy himself.How can I control his urges and keep his attention on me? Should I stay with him and work this out, or should I just leave him.Please help as I am very depressed a lot at the moment.[MOD NOTE, THIS HAS BEEN RE-WRITTEN FROM 3 SEPARATE QUESTIONS SUBMITTED BY THE SAME USER.]
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reader, rorowes +, writes (21 March 2009):
 Remember Halle Barry, and Eric Benet. You can't help him. Yes, think of your child, as the other advisor said.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (20 March 2009):
 If he is genuinely a sex addict then he should seek out a specialist counselling that treats it. However, only he knows if he is 'addicted' or a selfish man without inhibition who is doing whatever he wants, whenever he wants. From personal experience, men are particularly attentive when you are having their babies (or they at least should be!). If he is not making you feel like a princess right now then it is time to leave him. Having babies is wonderful, but exhausting. If you are depressed now, post-natally it could get worse and you need supportive caring people in your life. I hope you have other friends and family to support you. Reading your post it sounds like you feel there is something you can do to get this man to focus on you, there isn't! Only he can change if he wants to. By staying with him and thinking you can change him then you are contributing to the problem - if he is a sex addict then you are enabling him to continue along a destructive path by staying in the relationship. It takes a strong woman to walk out when pregnant but you should think about your future family life and the possible effects of this upset on you and the baby. It is time to focus on you and your baby, not a man who plays away - addicted or not. If you leave him, he may face up to what is happening and seek help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): If it's an addiction you can get him some counselling. There is nothing that YOU can do to control his urges and keep his attention on you, sorry.
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