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writes:im 18 with a 35 year old boy friend, we have lots in comon and get along great i'm about 6 weeks pregnant we're both happy about it,it's both our frist child and really he doesn't know what to expect and i'm trying to help him but it seems he gets confussed and pushes me away and its really getting to me,he brags to all hiis buddys and family on how happy he is to have found me and be in love and having a baby but when it comes to my feelings he doesn't understand how it effects me, but also i don't get how i'm over sentive lately and i'm never like this i'm thinking it's because i'm pregnant but not sure really.any who the thing i need help with is this,he can't ever be wrong and it bugs me because we're so much a like, like same music have simlar morals and foods ex... you think we would get on great and we diduntil i got pregnant about a week before i found out i started getting annoyed by the things he would say and do and i even started over cleaning everything as we live together, he teases me about it saying i can't ever stop but he's not being ungrateful just a light tease i flip off the wall and scream at him then start to cry.it's down right embrassing if you really think of itbut i don't want to be like this to him i feel as i might lose him i'm really trying but then some how when i try to control it i end up ignoring him or something and i get upset wondering why he has spoke to me since he got home from work !!!so i'm lost here how do i fix my emotions and help him understand what's wrong with me and that i love himi thihk i have pushed him away to he keeps telling me that it would kill him if i ever left him and that he couldn't live with out me but when i'm hurt he doesn't understand why he just says i'm being silly and doesn't know what to say to mei'm going crazy i might be over reacting yes but what to do about itplease help how do i keep my man and control my self ???????? Reply to this Question
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 Ok congrads on teh pregnancy. Even though you are still only early into teh preg your hormones are going into overdrive. You will feel weepy alone etc even when you are not. I was the opposite when i was preg with my son. I pushed ppl away and was very independent. You have to remember that as its something you will both be experiencing for the first time, everything that is going through your mind is also going through his too.
Theres not a right lot you can do to be honest. Take time out to chill and relax yourself, and then plan things that you can both do together.
Include each other in almost evrything you do but still make time for yourself.
Explain to him that you feel quiet low at the moment your hormones are all over the place but reasure him that you love him and are with him for life etc. Basically tell him that if you say something that hurts him in anyway to either ignore it or speak to you about it and that way you can make it better.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Hi there,
I've not been pregnant, so I can't help with any firsthand knowledge, but it does sound like you're a bit hormonal. Have you just been like this since you've become pregnant? I know that you said for one week before you were pregnant you'd been overcleaning, but maybe you were pregnant just a bit longer than you think?
Anyway, you might be stressing a bit, and maybe this would be a good time to see a counselor for some help? I assume you have a good ob/gyn doctor, and maybe his/her office could help you with a referral if you need it. You could also mention this emotional rollercoaster ride in your next visit too, to make sure that you can get the medical help you might need.
I know this probably wasn't much help, but I don't know what else to advise you...
You are facing a new life together with your new baby on the way, congratulations by the way! Things will change, obviously, but it might be the best thing that ever happened to you!
Just try to relax a bit, and enjoy your pregnancy and boyfriend as best you can.
All the best.
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