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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we are madly in love, We have amazing passionate sex which feels great!BUThe just doesnt really care about me orgasming, he does want to try though.but hes impatient and cant keep a hard on and use his hand on my clit at the same time, and hes impatient when it comes to oral and fingering, he seems to think it happens instantly.which is a shame because with an ex boyfriend we bought small vibrators and used them on me during sex which meant i had an orgasm every time which was great! but my current boyfriend is very unimpressed with this and doesnt really like me using it which means i barely ever cum during sex, only through masturbation.So how do i make him understand that i want to cum too? even if its through the vibrator as a quick fix and when we have more time he can try and make me orgasm! How do i make him be patient?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 He should be told directly that if he wants to go all the way with youhe needs to comply with your "needs"
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I'm not quite following how the sex can be "amazing and passionate" if you ain't cumming. For me if I don't cum then that's pretty mediocre sex at best and I don't see why a girl should feel any other way. Have higher expectations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): Talk to him..tell him how you feel and that you want to cum..he probably having tht mentality deep down inside that gosh I can't get my girlfriend to cum and doesn't feel like he's man enough..and he thinks that you wanting to use a vibrator is saying well you can't make me cum so lets just go the easy way out and have that make me cum
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reader, princessjasmine  +, writes (8 June 2010):
listen, he should understand that if hes not giving u wat u want and isnt patient with u, then u DESERVE to cum, ask him how it makes him feel when hes cumming all the time and u arent...is that fair? sex is a two way street, i lost my virginity to a guy i barely knew, but i chose him b/c he was the first guy who picked me first before himself, he was down there for 20 mins. for me just so i'd cum....i didnt NEED a vibrator from him, but my point is, if hes impatient, then hey, u deserve ur vibrator and he shud just deal. Relationships are not just about good communication, its about a good sex life and he clearly isnt giving u that at the moment. So he needs to either understand that ur gona get a vibrator or u needa think if this guys right for u if ur not feeling like ur FIRST in this relationship. He sounds a little selfish and all me me me during sex...i know guys like that and as much as we like pleasing men, they needa please u...pick up an issue of cosmo too, theres ways to make a guy please u without sounding naggy but more just seductive, like 'i like when u do that, or give him a kiss and do stuff with ur tongue and tell him ud love that feeling down there if he cud do that to u down there (the way ur demonstrating with ur own tongue on his mouth) its seductive and will turn him on too. and get urself a vibrator girl!
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