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writes:so heres the deal.im sixteen.so its not like im 12 or 13 and asking this question.dont judge me for this either.HAH.but yeah.up untill recently, i have never had a REAL boyfriend.ive only had 'things' like.. little unofficial relationships.but now, i have my boyfriend.and i do care about him alot :)but anyways.i stayed at his house for the night fr the first time.all the lgihts were off, blah blah blah.so i started kissing him.like we just kept kissing, like, not like KISSINGGG with tounge and stuff.but just kissing.like 15 times in a row BARELY parting away.so i was like thinking the WHOLE time..."why hasnt he taken taking this farther.."so i decided I was going to take it farther by using MY tounge, i was hesitent about this though, beucase i never had before :|his mouth was open, and so was mine..so i went for it.but his tounge like.. disaperared...:|and i ran into his teeth with minee.:|OMG EMBARASSING.AHAHAHA.like, i dont know..:|how can i ... make out with him.. without mentioning it?LIKE jeez, i know he has...i KNOW he has...HELP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): It shouldn'y be premeditated, make it spontanious and passionate, slowly work your tounge into kissing, there's always a natural rythm to it, it's always wierd kissing somone new, and teeth bumping does, occasionally happen.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 I'm 24 and me and my boyfriend still clash teeth occasionally lol. It's just one of those things that happens and you just learn to laugh it off.
Kissing generally comes naturally, if you worry about it too much, it will be awkward and stilted. You probably kissed on the lips so many times because neither of you was sure whether to take the plunge, and when you did, he wasn;t expecting it! Plus if he's your first boyfriend, it's going to take some practice. I was a late bloomer (later than all my friends!) and didn't have a boyfriend or a kiss until I was 14. All my friends had kissed boys by the time they were 12 and I was really embarassed about it, and quite scared about my fist kiss because I was obsessing over it. Messga me if you need any advice or a chat :o)
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reader, Confusedinthecity84  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 Your experience reminds me a little of my first kiss. :)
I was 18, by the way, and my first kiss with my boyfriend was awful. I felt like he was trying to eat corn-on-the-cob rather than kiss me. Our noses kept bumping and my mouth ached because he didn't quite understand that passionate kissing did not mean "attacking" the other person's lips. But, once we got past the initial awkwardness, making out with him got to be some of the best kissing experiences I've ever had. How?
It seems awkward, but if something doesn't seem to be working, stop and say, "Let's try this." Try kissing him gently on the lips, then lightly licking them. He might figure out that you want to French kiss him. If he doesn't, tell him how you'd like to be kissed: "gently massage my tongue with the tip of your tongue," etc. It can be fun to instruct/be instructed how to kiss someone. Try varying your kisses, too, in pressure and intensity. If his tongue disappears again, try backing off and kissing his lips gently. Wait a minute or two, then suggest you two try French kissing.
Kissing takes practice and getting used to each other. It's important to be able laugh off mistakes and to work to get things right. Really, it's something that most people catch on to. Because he likes you, he'll likely be an eager pupil. He wants you to be enticed, not turned off, by his kisses. Just remember to be kind and gentle with his feelings (don't make fun of him) when you help him figure things out.
Besides, the two of you can have an awful lot fun in the process.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): LOL, what a funny story! :D
My advice to you is to talk about it with him, and then go from there. Do whatever comes naturally, and enjoy it!
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Here are some fun tips and tricks:
1. Moisten your lips. Most people tend to forget this first tip. Dry lips do not move well together.
Just a light brush of your tongue over your lips will be sufficient to moisten them. In general, use lip balm regularly- you never know when someone will go in for the smooch. The last thing you want is two dry lips crunching against one another.
2. Angle your head. If your mouths meet dead-on, your noses will get in the way, and you will not be able to kiss deeply or smoothly. To avoid this, tilt your head slightly to one side. Make sure you do not both tilt your heads to the same side (this is a common mistake for beginners).
3. Close your eyes. As you approach for the kiss, look into your partner's eyes, but, once you are close to theirs, close your eyes. It can be a bit of a turnoff to be kissing and going cross-eyed.
4. Start with a gentle and soft closed-mouth kiss. The French kiss is an open-mouth kiss, but do not lunge in with your lips agape like you're going to eat them; instead, open your lips very slowly. If you were learning to speak French, you would probably start with the basics, vocabulary and grammar, before trying to write poetry. Well, the French kiss is like the poetry of kissing, and before you can be good at it, you have to master the closed-mouth kiss. Even after you have added French kissing to your romantic repertoire, it is usually better to start a kiss with closed lips.
5. Go Dutch on the decision to French. Kissing should be a shared decision. You need to have permission to French kiss someone, but when your lips are locked with theirs you may not want to stop and ask, "Hey, this is great, but can I put my tongue in your mouth?". Open your lips slowly and just a little during the kiss so that one of your lips is sandwiched between theirs and one of theirs is between yours. As you are locking and re-locking lips, brush your tongue against your partner's lips ever so slightly. This should make it clear that you want to French kiss. If your partner's tongue does not respond in like fashion or if they pull away, you will have to save the French kiss for another time when you are both ready.
6. Explore with your tongue. If you and your partner seem to be enjoying the open-mouth kiss, slowly try to open your mouth a little bit more and gently push your tongue a little farther into their mouth. The tongue is very sensitive, and the mere act of touching your partner's tongue with your own will be very pleasant and stimulating for each of you. Do not stick your tongue too far into the mouth, as this can be a big turn-off, and you might end up choking her too. Instead, just gently and playfully touch tongues.
7. Go slow. Passionate kisses are good sometimes, but to really enjoy a French kiss, you must take it slow. Do not hurry or rush, take time to explore each other's mouths. Somethings in life shouldn't be rushed and this is one of them.
8. Mix it up. Kisses are like snowflakes: no two are exactly the same. Once you finally feel comfortable French kissing someone, it is tempting to try to do the same thing every time. Add variety. Sometimes kiss deeper, for example, and other times pay more attention to the lips than the tongue. Hold the kiss longer or shorter and explore the art of kissing. The main thing is to not keep doing the same thing over and over. On that same not, when something feels good for each of you, do not abandon it for the sake of variety.
9. Read Body Language. Everybody kisses a little differently, and each person enjoys different things in a kiss - there is no "right" way to kiss. What separates good kissers from bad is an ability to read a partner's body language and be responsive to their partner. Of course if your partner pulls away or seems uncomfortable at any time, understand that you have to slow it down. Listen for cues that tell how much your partner is enjoying a particular kissing maneuver. If you hear a sigh or moan, or they begin kissing you back with increased intensity, realize that they are responding with fervor.
10. Develop your style. Good French kissing, like good kissing of any kind, requires practice. You will get better as you do it more. In addition, the more practice you have with one person, the more comfortable you will feel kissing them and developing a style that suits both of you.
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So, remember there are really no standards to kissing, it's usually whatever feels right/good. Kissing technique varies from one person to another.
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