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writes:One of my good friends is friends w/ benefits with one of her guy friends, and she really likes him. And she told him the way she feels, like everytime she sees him it makes her day better, etc. etc. And he said "well that's nice to know. i'm glad someone likes me." Does anyone else think that that answer is implying that he's just using her for a booty call?!And now he asked her to have sex with him and she's actually going to go through with it. He actually said to her that he would tell her how he feels about her after they have sex. And she's actually believing him! How do I get through to her to make her know that having sex with him is the completely wrong answer??I don't want to see her hurt anymore than she already is.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 "If only Life were Easy"! You have said a mouthful! You are preaching to the choir, honey! Amen AND the Hallelujah Chorus!
And no, I course I know that you would not, I can hear in your words the pain that you feel for her. With any luck she will come to her senses on her own. I hope so, for her sake!
Have a great New Years!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice, i would never tell her 'i told you so' it just hurts to see her go through this and i can't do anything to help her
if only life was easy!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (31 December 2007):
I would love to tell you that it is possible to transfer your knowledge and wisdom to your friend and that she will automatically accept it with your thanks and avoid her impending mistake. If that were possible, we'd all be perfect parents AND we'd all be perfect children!
Unfortunately, most of us only learn from experience. Let her know, WITHOUT nagging, how the experience could backfire and then be just let her go. If you were to tell her that she was a "booty call", well, there is an old saying about Shooting the Messenger... She won't believe you and she will remember that YOU said it more than she will hear the actual message.
As a friend, you will have done your best for her and All that remains for you to do - is to give her a shoulder to cry on when it goes the way that you predicted. AND if you are a good friend - PLEASE resist the urge to say "I told you so". It's good of you to care so much for her, there is nothing better than girlfriends.
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