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writes:I went out with this one guy (let's call him X) for two years. Broke up for the second and final time almost two months ago. First time is a bit controversial, so we won't get into that. Anyway, the first month getting over him was crap...I was highly depressed and just wanted to get over him. Quickly. Well, it's been almost two months now and I'm finally starting to see the "light" again. So anyway, I met this one guy (we'll call him Y) on Facebook and we went on a date today and it went well...for the most part. I just don't see myself long-term dating him. I've been flirting with a few other guys in my classes at college and also with this one guy (we'll call him Z) I dated back in sophomore year of high school. Whom, funnily enough, is the only guy I seem to feel the most comfortable with and around. Anyway, I just want to have fun and flirt and have random dates with random guys (but definitely NOT give it away), but at the same time, I kinda want to be with guy Z. How do I have my fun with other guys and make sure he waits? I really don't want to string him along but he just seems like the ideal for the long-term.What in the hell should I do? Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): I have to be honest with everyone who answered, I did not mean to come off as a "pampered princess" or anything like that. I can very much assure you I am quite the opposite. I should have told you before that I went through basically hell with boy X and I'm really not meaning to string guys along and just "go after" anyone I possibly can. Although I told you I want to have fun and date random guys, I only want to date the guys I know at least a little bit. Right now, I'm still in that stage where I'm just trying to get over my ex. That's basically all I want to do right now. Just get over him completely. Not think about him at all. And I've been told that I should go out and have fun and date other guys to do just that!I'm sorry that I came off as selfish or anything, I just need a little help here, I guess. And now that I think about it, my previous question does seem a little out there. Once again, I am sorry. Just please, give me a little guidance here. Thanks.
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reader, purple11  +, writes (29 January 2009):
you sound like youve been a pampered princess your whole life and think far to much of yourself, if you want to be with him make your move otherwise carry on with your life and when your ready see if hes still free, but you cant expect people just to put there lives on hold just incase
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reader, knight08 +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I tell you what the hell you should do, stop being to selfish and search within your self and see what you really want ;-) You sound so immature (sorry but this is necessary evil), don’t make any one wait while you have fun, that sounds so cold from you. Grow up girl, good luck and all the best ;-) (you may need it)
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reader, planepocket +, writes (29 January 2009):
I don't think you should expect him to wait for you while you date other people.And he probably won't,so date him and the other guys but be prepared to lose him if he finds someone he wants to commit to.
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