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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I think I'm stuck in between being mature in a relationship and still that little girl who is a bit insecure. I need advice on how to handle a relationship in a mature adult way and be comfortable with it.I've been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. We have our usual couple disagreements but are happy and share a good chemistry most of the time. When out with his friends, I've noticed on many occasions how he likes to act flirty with another girl. The two of them likes to bicker and smart mouth each other, she punches him lightly and he will mess her hair.. things like that. Also, he does take her advice and comments to heart and I can tell he values her friendship a lot. This girl has a boyfriend and we all hang out together. We know that her and her boyfriend are doing well as a couple and they know that my boyfriend and I are in love as well. When I see them kinda act flirty like that, it doesn't really bother me that much as I know they are just friends and acting friendly flirty. But my personality is not like that, I don't get too close to any of mine or his male friends. So, a part of me understands that it's just harmless friendliness, but another part of me will feel a bit jealous and insecure. I know I have no need or reason to feel that way, because we all (the girl, her BF, my BF, and I) are close.How do I lose the jealous and insecure mentality and grow up to see it in a mature adult way?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (13 November 2014):
 It's HISinsecurity you should be aware of. He's insecure with the relationship and seeks reinforcement that he's still a viable catch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2014): I'd talk to him about it and say that it bothers you a little. See what he says.Say you know that it is harmless fun but it makes you feel a bit insecure. Emphasise that you love and trust him
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