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writes:I find I can do without porn and don't want to support any porn sites. But if I go a long time without atleast seeing naked women, I start feeling bummed out, hollow, empty or dead inside. Is that normal? Could it have something to do with being single for like forever?I keep some French and Italian magazines showing women completely naked in non-sexual poses. I want to get rid of them at some point since it seems kind of adolescent to hide nude pics in one's bedroom, but I know the feelings of deprivation would return eventually. I have no problem masturbating without visual aids and always want to respect women. So why this "need" to see them naked?? Is it realistic or even possible for a single guy living alone to completely stop looking or should I accept the embarrassing fact that I look at naked women?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the answers, I really appreciate the thought put into them.
What I meant by "need" was more of a psychological need. Like how you'd say a person needs love, companionship or alone time. Of course you won't literally die without those things. But they are something that's often on your mind if you don't have them.
Nudity was very taboo in my house growing up and nude photos would be like contraband. Due to religious beliefs, even if I got a gf now, technically I couldn't see her in the nude or do "things" together until we were married and ready for children. Since I don't feel called to that lifestyle, the motivation for dating isn't there. Religiously speaking, if you don't want both marriage and children, your only other option is a solitary, celibate life. It can seem unfair but not sure what else to do.
Pindrop, I think a lot like you do. Being artistic, I so admire the pure aesthetics and elegant lines of the female form. Hopefully with a bit more sophisticated appreciation than guys who just want to throw back a beer and see some "titties". I once framed a Christian Coigny picture for the bedroom (but it comes down when visitors come over). Though some porn is almost artsy and beautiful, its still strangers being paid to f--k each other and something seems really impersonal and wrong about that.
My mags aren't really porn - there's no bent-over poses or spread legs- but a couple of them are more geared to men, so they have pictorials that are arousing. I probably do look at those the most. at least from the advice here so far, it seems looking at naked women is very normal and natural.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2014): I think if you are a male and stop looking at women naked or otherwise, then you should go and see a doctor.So what you are doing is very natural and healthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2014): I think it's normal and I'm glad you don't support porn. I agree it could be an obsession due to nudity being taboo but what you're describing doesn't sound like that. Why don't you find a girl friend and then you can look at her as much as you like hopefully.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 November 2014):
 I think SVC nailed it.
Men don't NEED to see naked ladies, they WANT to see them. And women likes to enjoy a naked male as well.
It's called desire, lust, curiosity, fantasy fodder.
Personally, though I think it's slightly obsessive thoughts you have. Having grown up with nude/topless beaches, I would say I have seen thousands of naked/semi naked people in my life, and nudity doesn't bother me at all. Whether they are 3 year old or 83. It's JUST another person to me, naked or not. To you though, a naked person is about sex. It's somehow taboo.
As for your Italian/French magazines with naked ladies? I don't see the big deal, unless they become part of your obsession or anxiety. That you somehow THINK you HAVE to have a picture of a naked women to look at.
Have you considered what WOULD happen if you NEVER saw another naked female in your life? WHAT do you think would happen?
What about art?
Pictures like La Maja desnuda by Francisco Goya. or.. Lady Godiva by John Collier. Just to name a few. A naked body is NOT just about sex. It's art. It's a statement, a way of telling a story. And most of all... IT IS A PERSON.
Maybe you should TRY that whole dating thing? Met people "in the flesh" and maybe find a women whom you can enjoy naked?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 November 2014):
 Do men NEED to see women naked... no.
Do men WANT to see something naked... sure
Jeff Foxworthy has a saying... "what do men want?"
"It's simple... they want a beer and they want to see something naked!" most men i know nod their heads and smile when they hear this.
Is there a reason you choose to use photos vs pursuing meeting a real woman to have a relationship with?
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reader, pindrop  +, writes (12 November 2014):
 Hey, nothing wrong with wanting to look at naked ladies. Heck, we are more attractive to look at then men, with our figures, curves, skin, hair etc. You are meant to be visually attracted to such things. I admit I am too, although I am straight but I can't deny women's bodies are beautiful. Why deny yourself pleasure, if you find it pleasing to the eye there is nothing wrong with looking, as long as it doesn't lead to depraved behaviour. Porn is fake anyway unless you look at amateur porn, but even that you can tell they are doing it for the cameras, certain things should be kept private, it's like going to the toilet, I wouldn't do that in front of my partner, let alone the whole world to see..! Call me a prude, same applies to sex and who really wants to see a private act, well I know lots do, but it is or should be an intimate moment between two people. So I suppose some might say the same about naked women, I guess they shouldn't be exposing themselves and there bodies should be just for their partners to see. I don't know where we draw the line. You need some inspiration for the times you are by yourself and so looking and getting turned on by naked women is normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2014): I think its just human nature mate! I have been single for time now and well I do not actually need to see a women naked.. but I am certainly noticing them more around me.
so its just instinct I think
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