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writes:Thanks for readingI'm a bit on tender hooks today and need an outside opinion Been with my gf for a year - she's 21 and I'm the first guy she's slept with. We've had such a good time and all was great.Aside from when her nan died she went quiet for a few days and pushed me away but after I went to the funeral all was good.I last heard from her at 3pm yesterday. No goodnight call / morning. It's now mid afternoon the next day still nothing. Not like her at all.I called her house last night about 10pm and her dad said she's in bed. Very weird she didn't call me when she got home.Her phone is disconnected and she hasn't been on Facebook. I know she was out with her cousin ( she's a bit of a cow and tries to influence my gf sometimes about me, I think she's jealous - part of my gf problem is she listens to people and not herself. I've heard nothing and I noticed today her cousin ( the one above who she was with last night ) has blocked me on Facebook. Strange as we all had dinner last week. I don't know what to do / think. Should I go over after work? It's just so odd and I couldn't sleep properly :(Thanks for any advice
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (30 January 2015):
 I'm sorry, but it does sound like she's going cold on you.
I suggest you ring her house at a more sensible time (i.e. before 9pm) or text her and ask her if everything's OK as you haven't heard from her for a while.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 January 2015):
 You lost sleep over this little bagatelle? In time you will learn to sweep such nonsense under the rug. Now here's what you'll do. Don't go running around her house. You called. She was in bed. You can try to call again, but if she's still not responding then that's HER problem, not yours, and you should under no circumstance engage in petty little games. You're 22-25, not 12-15. If she wants to go "silent treatment" on you for whatever reason, then just ignore her until it simmers off. Then have a talk with her about what it means to have an adult conversation and not just ignoring the other person, because it makes you worried.
As for her cousin. Screw the cousin. And to be honest, if your girlfriend is so dumb she will listen to other people about you, then I'd consider leaving her. If she's with you then she's got no business listening to other people talk about you, or trash-talk you. That's very offensive both to you, to her, and to the relationship. So if she's letting it happen then maybe take it as a sign she's not mature enough to be in a relationship. But really, IGNORE the cousin. If this cousin and you weren't getting along anyways, why would you need him/her on facebook? Just screw that, it's so pointless to even think about.
Go out and do something nice instead of wasting your time worrying about, what seems to be, a game-playing immature girlfriend. Or, maybe she was just sleepy and you're exaggerating it all. Try to call her again. If she does then it's all well. If she doesn't, then leave her be.
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