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writes:Hey I have a tendency to get anxious in certain situations and break out sweating. I used to have a lot of built up anxiety and would freak out during the day but I have gotten that under control by focusing on the now. However, there are certain situations where I was with my girlfriend and her parents and though I'm comfortable with both of them I was wearing a suit. I became sort of hot in the suit and the heat made me feel claustrophobic and made me feel trapped. It wasn't even that hot but it was enough of a combination between being hot, feeling trapped, and slightly uncomfortable with the surrounding settings. These situations seem to happen a lot in formal wear. Especially when I'm with a date to a formal and we have to take pictures I get anxious seeing everyone else take pictures and the sweat begins to ensue.I don't know what to do about this. I know if I focus on the task at hand everything else seems to slow down a bit and I become more relaxed but the heat induced anxiety seems more complicated and I'm not sure how to handle it. It becomes very frustrating when I start sweating and have to keep wiping my forehead.Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Thanks anonymous thats helpful about not being afraid to tell others that I'm hot and take the jacket off and the playing up to my strengths b/c I agree girls do appreciate the warm body on a cold day. I guess I just have to be comfortable with taking off my jacket and suck it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I don't have an answer for you but I wanted to say that I have essentially the same problem. I've never seen it as "anxiety" as such. I'm not a worrier and I feel exceptionally blessed with my life. Rather I think it is in part genetic, some of us just our thermostats set higher than the average, combined with somewhat stressful situations (hot, confined space, not enough air and too many people).
I deal with it by a) avoiding situations that bring it on or trying to modify them when I can b) acknowledging it "hey people I'm really hot, I'm going to take my jacket off. Do you mind?" c) remembering that there is a long long list of far worse things to have wrong with me and d) revelling in the ability to wear shorts and t shirt when it's a few degrees above freezing.
Play to your strengths, for all those times when I was too hot, with sweat dripping off my forehead and presumably quite unattractive for a girl to get close to (lets say even more unattractive than usual!) there were all those times when it was cold and girls were only too happy to have a really warm body to hold on to or snuggle up with at night.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (4 May 2009):
 To accurately and most effectively treat you anxiety you should be talking to a therapist. You need someone who you can work with on a weekly basis to be most consistent with your progress. None of us can help you. The best you could do is Wikipedia treatment for anxiety disorder, but that will only give you an idea of what to expect.
Also, there are many forms of anxiety disorder. Some require medication, some just need therapy.
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