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41-50,
anonymous
writes:If a man plays games with you and you know that he really likes you what should you do? Example he says he will call you the next day but then doesnt as he is expecting then for you to get in touch with him. How is the best way to respond to this behaviour? I know that he will get in touch again when he realizes i wont call him but what is the best thing to say or not to say and how do you stop this behaviour? I really like this guy but refuse to go along with these games. But obviously i couldnt tell him directly i know what hes doing as he would deny that. I know that these kind of guys do this to see if you care so how can you show them you care without falling into their games? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2010): While generally I'd agree with the other Aunts, I think you should consider that perhaps this is the way he thinks he's supposed to act based on past experience or inexperience.
Believe me there's a lot of girls that like to play games and I have, in my youth, tried to match that because I thought that's how things were supposed to be done, especially when you look around and see that it's the guys that treat girls like this that seem to have the most success with them.
He might be trying to do the right thing to keep you, even if it is a little misguided and immature, best off to talk to him about it and ask him what the story is. He could well be a guy that used to suffocate women with attention and is now trying not to.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 April 2010):
Cut him out. Seriously, when a man likes a woman that much, he does't play games. He does what he can to get your attention. If a man says he will call, and then doesn't, then give him a chance. If he continues (as your guy is), he's not worth the effort. You can't stop this behaviour, because this is who he is. Don't waste your time on a man like this. no matter how much you like him, he's not making an effort and you will just feel used and abused. Find a man who is prepared to make an effort.
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