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writes:Ok there's this guy that I've like forever and we've been friends forever and it seems that i've liked him forever too. But a friend blabbed a few years ago and now things are really awkward between me and this guy especially as we used to be really good friends and he would look after me.I noticed that he's changed recently. At first only I noticed but now almost everyone has so im not quite sure what to say to him.I love him but I'd rather be friends than go out but he has it in his mind that I really want to go out with him so he feels awkward. So basicaly I've been ignored by him for the past 3 years.... but I really really realy want to be friends with him again.He cares about my feelings and tries not to upset me so I think that shows that he doesn't think of me as a total stranger... yet.But what I really want to know is how do I go about being friends again without things feeling awkward? I have his email but he never replies to me or anyone, as I have said he's changed. So can we be friends again or at least for him to notice me? It breaks my heart to think we may not be but I'd really like your advice on how I can resolve this subtily if possible as I get quite embarassed. I really miss him.SMJiexps. I'll post more details if needed.
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 You need to put your foot down and have a heart to heart talk. Put the record straight. Let him know exactly how it was going on and tell him everything you can say. Drag him of to a quiet place if you have to, be sure you'll be alone with him for an hour at least :D if it's been that long, it calls for drastic measures in my eyes :D You tell him, don't ask him or give him hints. Say it like you mean it and be the woman you are. He'll either take it or leave it. You'll never win anything if you don't take the risk. You're slowly losing already so the longer you wait, the more you'll have lost. Be spontaneous and if the talk goes well, try to do an activity together, doesn't matter what it is, as long as it's you and him together and you both have fun. Your friendship will grow just like it used to.
You don't have a lot to lose by the sound of it, you're already nearly out of his life so take a stand and claim your ticket into his life! Nobody's gonna give it to you, you have to prove yourself hard to get what you want. Are you up to it?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 February 2010):
In a situation like this, it takes a face to face talk to work out what to do. That means you need to speak to him and tell him that you have noticed you have drifted apart as friends and you'd like to be a closer friend again. He'll either go for it, or he won't. I think if he likes you enough, he'll go for it. But this is something that needs to be said face to face and not over the net.
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