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writes: First off, true love endures. It can withstand challenges, mishaps, and crisis. The important thing is, the one you believe to be the one, has to feel the same as you do; and be willing to struggle to keep it together as much as you want to.See, sometimes we aren't sure of what we want. We feel if we lose someone in our lives no matter how hard we fight to keep them, that's it. We've failed. Destiny, fate, and divine intervention removes those people and habits that deter us from someone meant for us, and blessings yet to come. You can't fight fate or karma. Redemption saves us when our lessons have been learned.Some people are only meant to touch our lives temporarily. To give us something special; then they must go to fulfill their destiny. It doesn't matter who initiated the breakup, or why. It was not meant to be permanent, and the expiration date has come. If you did things and said things you now regret; then forgive yourself, and promise yourself not to repeat them when love finds you again. It will, even though it may not come instantly. This time that you're alone is for you to repair and prepare. To become a better man or woman, and redeem yourself. If s/he caused all the troubles in your relationship, and couldn't appreciate you for who you are and what you can give; then let her/him be on their way. Your ex wasn't happy. That doesn't mean s/he was a bad person, just the wrong person for you.You lose nothing you value without feeling grief and a sense of loss. We value some people for the wrong reasons. Their beauty, good sex, they feed our insecurities, or flatter our vanities; and boost our egos just being seen with them. If a relationship was built on the wrong foundation, and there is no trust. It crumbles to the ground. Even if it takes years for it to die. We fight hard to avoid loneliness; even cling to people we don't even like, if they appeal to something carnal within us. That is a weakness, not a strength.Your mind and heart are designed to feel grief when we lose someone we love. You are also designed to heal and recover from a loss. Not without some pain and suffering. You move on, because you have a strong sense of survival. You don't survive for others, you survive because your gift of life has your name on it.You will find love again in due time. Man-up/grow-up/woman-up and deal with the pain. If you did love that person, it should hurt. However; s/he isn't the last woman/man on earth; nor are they the only love you are entitled to have. Destiny and fate will take charge, you will live through this. The pain of any wound takes time to heal. Your heart is in the way and lying to you, telling you this is the end. No it isn't. They'll get over you, and you'll get over them. Not without some pain, but "what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger." As the saying goes.Hold on to life and pursue your happiness. Be determined to survive. Give up anyone who is not willing to stay, even if it hurts. It only means, they weren't really meant to. If you caused the breakup, it is because there was something you needed to learn. That lesson came through loss. Go forward, and don't look back. Let them go. Someone else is meant for you, and you both must undergo the trials and tribulations it takes to prepare you for real love, and something meant to last. That journey may sometimes take years. If someone is right for you, it will last a very long time, if not indefinitely. Maybe for life, if that's your destiny. If it is not, you enjoy the moment, and not worry about eternity. You can't worry about the future, you're not there yet. You prepare for the realities of life, that is done by the lessons we learn and how we apply that wisdom.People tend to worry about how long it will last, instead of appreciating the quality of what you have now. Live in the present and enjoy it. If at some point they decide they want to go, you have to let them. That means there is still someone even better in your future. So, again you work on yourself to be sure you deserve them.
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reader, N91  +, writes (10 July 2016):
 This was a good read that I feel I can relate to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, Ivyblue!
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (14 June 2016):
 You my dear sir truly are a wise owl. Beautifully written words of wisdom.
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