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writes:I have been dating a girl for 6 months. She recently told me I was too nice and smothered her. I only call her so much because she cheated on me for a month with her ex. She is pregnant with my child. How do I give her the bad boy attitude without going too far and running her off?
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reader, ?MichelleLynn?  +, writes (12 April 2009):
 Hello blue_devil_fan27,To be perfectly honest with you, trash the entire "Bad Boy" image. Be yourself, and just to get a girl, don't change your personality. Sounds like she's living a pretty bad lifestyle right now. As good as the "Bad Boy" image may look to you, it's not as good as you may think. What ultimately stops me from giving you the advice of dumping her is the fact that she is pregnant with your child. I think you should let her know that you are who you are and if that's not good enough for her... maybe you should consider dumping her. I just don't see how a relationship can work out unless two people agree with each other and accept the significant others personality. If she didn't like who you were in the first place, then why did she sleep with you? It's so wrong! Ponder my advice please and get out of the situation if she is too much to handle. You'll be miserable for the rest of your life then. I hope you'll take the advice and DON'T change who you are just for a girl. Hope this helps! Good luck!-MichelleLynn
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): Just be yourself...only less needy! Even needy people, don't like other needy people...it's just the way it is!
give her some breathing room! Give her the opportunity to prove herself trust worthy. You will have to regain her trust if the relationship is going to work out.
No one wants to be smothered...and nobody really wants to be needy! It's a matter of working on our own issues. Building our own identity...strengthening our values. It's not easy but it is the only way we will ever have normal, healthy relationships!
So, forget the bad-boy image, it's not all it's cracked up to be!
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (12 April 2009):
 Dump her! She'll soon realise she is pretty screwed with out you to look after her during her pregnancy!
Never change for someone especially don't become a badboy, child or not!
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