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writes: ok guys i need help. please dont think im stupid for asking but i need to how to give what guys would call a good blowjob. any tips would be great.thankyou.
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reader, JACKYSMIR +, writes (30 October 2011):
Giving amazing head is something that every woman should know how to do, but unfortunately most women just don't give great head. That's sad because guys love a great blow job and you can provide so much pleasure to your guy when you do it right just. It adds a whole new addition to your sexual repertoire.If you're been brainwashed to believe that blow jobs are 'dirty' or 'gross' or something that only hookers perform, then you have to learn to lose that attitude. We all have darker desires, your man included, and if you don't share in his darker desires then he might just seek them elsewhere.Sexuality has many facets, including love making, but it also should include a little edge every now and then. All guys watch porn and love porn, I don't care what you may have heard to the contrary. So, give you man a slightly naughty porn star style blow job and he's going to love you for it.It's all about getting yourself in the right spirit and acknowledging your own sexiness. Don't hold back, open up to your own inner dark side. Once you've won that battle it's all about getting your blow job technique down pat.Techniques should be practiced in order to really get good at giving head. So practice on your man and practice with a sex toy or maybe a big carrot, something penis shaped obviously. This way you'll be a pro within a few weeks, guaranteed, even faster if you get into it.In order for a blow job to be pleasurable you're going to have to not let your teeth get in the way. We're simulating our vagina and our vagina doesn't have any sharp teeth, now does it? The best way to avoid your teeth from scraping on your man's penis is to open up wide and use your tongue, your lips, and the sides of your mouth to block your teeth from even touching his penis. You can learn more tips and tricks from Jack's Blowjob Lessons.If you've ever watched a porno movies you'll notice that these skilled women can give head at super fast speeds without any teeth scraping – this is your goal. Commit to it and learn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): All of this advice is good, but there is one small thing that you should remember. While deepthroating is awesome, it can be very uncomfortable and even painful. As with any sexual act, don't do it if you don't enjoy it, otherwise it just becomes something you dread. If you don't mind the gag, then by all means go for it, but if it bothers you let him know, and if he's a decent guy, he'll understand that your comfort and health is just as important.
http://www.holisticwisdom.com/blow-job.htm
that site says it best.
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reader, Dwayne +, writes (22 May 2008):
You know, there were a lot of excellent posts on this subject and the I guess the really "correct" answer is that there is no ONE answer, every guy is a little different. But for most guys, I think "Tommy7" gave the best advice. So, I'll echo most of his advice plus my 2 cents.
1. Use your hands as little as possible. If you have to use your hand to steady the dick every once in a while that's OK. It's supposed to be your MOUTH that gets me off not your HAND. In fact, my girlfriend usually puts her hands either behind her back or on my stomach to remind her of my no hands preference.
2. Be gentle, don't use your teeth. But, at the same time, don't act like it's made of fine china, don't be AFRAID of the dick!
3. Look up at his face. Smile alot. This is one of the two rules that in my opinion MUST be followed. Ladies, there is simply nothing better than having a beautiful woman, the under ordinary circumstances you really do respect, taking your manhood halfway down her throat and smiling like a pornstar. It's just mindblowing ladies. Seriously.
4. Follow his directions, if any.
5. Personally, I never was much into ball licking.
6. Lick up and down the shaft. This is good for variety, maybe do this 20% of the time, but really 80% of the time should be about hard suction.
7. Take him all in, and I do mean as far down your throat as you can get him, at least 1 out of every 6 or 7 downstrokes.
OK ladies, I need to say something on this rule. Only YOU really know if you are SERIOUSLY gagging or if it's something you can live with. See, for me, I know about every 6th or 7th downstroke (or more often if she really is into it that day), she's gonna take me in her mouth all the way down to my balls and she is going to gag a little. Ladies, please do not take this the wrong way, I love my girlfriend to death, I've actually asked her to marry me, but she doesn't want to. The thing is ladies, we expect and WANT you to gag a little! We want to know we got as far down you throat as possible, hey at least I do. Deep penetration is psychologically important to men. If you are not willing to take him in as far as humanly possible at least once in a while, then really the blowjob isn't worth it from his point of view. This is the second rule that MUST be followed for me.
8. Personally, I like a nice steady pace, pick a rhythm and stick it to.
9. Rub his body with you hands. Great idea, you can put the hands anywhere, as long as you don't use them for a glorified handjob.
10. Don't stop until he comes. OK, this one point that I can disagree with. Personally ladies, I want you to let me know if you intend to "finish me" this way or not. If you DO intend to finish me this way, then ladies, a finishing blowjob SHOULD be a NASTY blowjob, which means you should swallow at least some of it. Now, you can do like a lot of the femal porn stars do, catch most of it on your face, some of it in your mouth but actually, force it out with your tongue and let most of it drool down your face, that's cool. But whatever you do, if you are going to finish me off with a BJ, you can't be afraid of the jizz at the end, you have to act least ACT like the nasty blowjob porn starlet at this point. Ladies, it's kind of like pizza. Nobody REALLY fucking wants a "low calorie" pizza right? I mean you might as well skip it right? But ladies, if you DO want to be his little naughty slut, but you just can't bring yourself to open your mouth and pretend to try to catch it, there is an alternative. When he gets close you can give him a nice titty fuck and talk dirty to him while you are doing it (assuming you have a C cup or better). And I actually DO prefer it this way because I can see her smiling face and sample her dirty talk while she finishes what she started.
11. Oh, one more thing. Ladies, don't get mad when the guy puts his hand on the back of your head and tries to force it deeper down your throat. OK now sometimes, he's just being an asshole, I grant you that. But ladies a lot of the time, that means you are not going deep enough. The next time he puts his hand back there, try this. Go really DEEP, as DEEP as you can for like 5 consecutive downstrokes. You will give hime so much pleasure that I bet you that hand moves! Now, if you do that and the hand doesn't move, then you legitimately have the right to stop and ask him "dude, what the fuck do you want? I CAN'T go any deeper and what I just did should have damn near sent you into orbit!! WTF?". Besides ladies, you know what, as a man I have learned how to properly eat pussy and guess what, when I'm doing it CORRECTLY, I feel my girlfriends hand on the back of my head pushing my head down!! She will usually say something like "RIGHT THERE, DO NOT FUCKING STOP"! So, as you can see it goes both ways! Women will just usually be more vocal about WHY they are forcing your head down where men just don't say it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): I agree that every man is different, but there are some basic techniques to use. I'd recommend starting by holding the base of the penis gently so he's angled against his stomach and licking the testicles. Start gently and increase the pressure, perhaps taking each testicle into your mouth. Moan or hum whilst you do this, the vibrations feel good.
Then lick where you were holding him at the base and start moving up the penis. Keep using your hand to steady him and have him where you need him to be. If you have enough saliva at this point, put your lips into an open 'pout' side on to his penis and move them from the base to just before the head, flicking with your tongue but not moving your lips. Keep starting at the base and moving up 'til you've covered most of him. Change this movement to long wet licks (this is the easiest time to look up at him). Make sure the licks start to cover the head without going straight to the tip. Make the last of the licks straight up the back of the penis covering the frenulum gently and swirling around the base of the glans up to the top of the head.
Making sure your lips are wet, again pout but position your mouth straight over the head. Gently push down over the head to simulate as if he was penetrating you. Use some resistance but nothing major at this point. Once you've got the head in your mouth, use your tongue to swirl all over. Some guys like a little flick right at the tip.
Slowly raise your head up but don't remove his penis from your mouth. Make sure your bottom lip gently rubs against the frenulum on the way up. You can use the fingers of the hand supporting the penis to play with his testicles whilst doing this. Push your head down again gently but a little further. Keep doing this slowly, moving your tongue over him, and try to get frequent gentle contact with the frenulum, until you've as much of him in your mouth as you're comfortable with.
You can choose to cover your teeth with your lips or not, but try not to catch him, and start a regular slow rhythm with a little suction (not massive amounts!) You can use your hand as an extension of your mouth, but make sure his penis is nice and wet so you're not pulling on him uncmfortably.
Increase the pressure and the rhythm (not forgetting to move your tongue against him when he's inside your mouth)until you've got a sustainable and relatively fast movement that's comfortable for you. Be prepared for lots of sucking noises and you don't necessarily need to go faster even if he's urging you to. It depends on how much teasing you want to do.
If your jaw needs a break, hold his head in your mouth and gently suck and lick whilst using your hand as you would to masturbate him.
If you want to try deep throating, go for it and be confident about it. It takes a bit of practice and you will have a gag reflex, but it's satisfying to do and if you (again) move your tongue (admittedly it won't be that much!) so much the better. If it's not for you, it's not for you and I don't think it's essential but anice added extra.
Personally, my opinion is that even if you don't like the taste, swallow. It'll spend less time on your tongue than if you spit and is tidier! Alternatively, when he's near, masturbate him onto your face (close your eyes) or your breasts.
Once you're comfortable with it, you can add little tricks (rotating your head one way and your hand another, following your mouth with your hand and flicking your index finger over the head inside your mouth so that on the way down his penis is between your forefinger and midle finger, applying pressure to/licking the perineum)but the best thing you can do is enjoy it. If you're not into it, any guy worth his salt won't try to pressure you into it. Just don't expect the same back!
When I'm with a new partner I always make a point of asking which part they liked best, would they like me to try anything different, did they like the part where etc. If you've done it, it shouldn't be embarrassing to talk about it.
Hope that helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): for a really good blow job liaten to this advice!!!I totally agree that you should ask your partner what he likes most and what he would like you to do, every guy is different so your gonna wanna know what he really likes.start off by turning him on, kiss him a bunch, make out with him, suck on his neck, lick his ears, do whatever turns him on. while kissing him start stripping off his clothes and have him take off yours. being naked makes him more turned on and gets everything out of the way. then while your kissing him you should reach your hand down and start playing around, rubbing his cock, gentle stroking it, and massage his balls gently. then when your about to go down on him, kiss him all the way down til you reach his cock. then kiss his headand lick it a bit. Tease him and get him begging for you to suck it. If your in a serious relationship and you are really in love, say I love you right before you go down on him which will make it veryy passionate. when you get to the actual sucking part, start off slow. dont swallow all your spit because the wetter the better. dont deep throat yet you gotta lead up to that. Lick the head of his penis and like the shaft too. you can also start at the base and lick your way up. gradually go faster as you go but dont go too fast cause you'll get tired or you might slip and hurt him. if you do end up getting tierd, use your hand and take a break or you can hop on and have him go in and out of you for a few minutes. that will make him go crazyy :] dont stay on for a long time cause then it will just be sex. once you hop off go back to sucking. looking up at him and smiling while sucking his cock will make him know you like it which will make him enjoy it more seeing your into it. you should actually do a little bit of sucking while blowing him but not too much cause it might hurt. run your tounge right under the head for extra stimulation. dont just suck his dick you should suck on his balls a little bit too. be very careful since they are very sensitive. when hes about to come go faster and deeper. if you dont like cum but want to swallow have his cock toward the back of your throat so you dont have to taste it that much, if you dont mind then do whatever. Guy really do like it more when you swallow but dont be pressured to. when your done drink a bit of water to get anything thatts left over out of your mouth then lay next to him and kiss him and smile, let him know you got some enjoyment out of it too. well thereee you go, good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): I used to think that giving a blow-job was kinda gross....why would i want to stick my boyfriend's cock in my mouth...but then i was with a guy who i REALLY liked and he liked me too and i WANTED to do it...giving a bj became enjoyable..you can try and get advice from people..but it is a pretty natural act..you do it and don't really think about it...ask him what he wants, btu if you're not comfortable asking then just do it and he'll let you know what feels great and what doesn't...Good luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): Thank you for all the details. My b/f knows how to come down on me and make me go absolutely wild, and I want to return the favour. I want to give him the best blow job ever. The gag reflex is the biggest difficulty. Plus, I have never swallowed the cum - I'm afraid it will taste awful...though maybe I'll try it because I really want to please him... he gives me soooo much pleasure, I really want to return the favour. I never have let him come in my mouth, but I'd be willing to try it at least once. Guys... keep talking and telling us what you like...I want to learn how to do this. I saw a video by Heather Brooke...she can take a big penis and totally deep throat it...how does she do that??? How do you get over the gag reflex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): to give a good bj is you need to focus on the penis, but your also need to lick between the sack and anus, and lick that part every once in a while it will drive him wild b/c he has never felt that sensation before meanwhile you are jacking him off or rubbing his penis
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): How to give a good blow-job... you have to enjoy what you are doing and then get him in teh mood.... kiss his lips then go right down there and just lick the head and start to stroke and then try to put as much as you can in your mouth dont stop stroking and keep going faster and faster
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): well first gently sucking a guys head feels amazing but remember, NO TEETH. also deepthroating feels good too. swallowing can be very sexy and fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): I would echo most of the advice here. (1) My g/f and I talk about what we like. When she gives me a BJ she knows what makes it feel good for me. (2) She really, really likes giving me a BJ. And I can't tell you how that makes me feel. To know that she wants to turn me on gets me so excited (and it turn makes me want to do whatever I can to turn her on. (3) She swallows. This is a personal choice. Some girls like to, some don't. But from my perspective, the fact that she lets me cum in her mouth and that she swallows it just turns me on so much. So, communicate and enjoy it. Your guy will in turn enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Simple....want to do it.
In my opinion, the best blow jobs from my wife are when I feel whe want'ts to do it!!! Sometime slow and sensual, other times like she's going to bite it off....It doesn't matter...as long as I feel she wants to do it it's great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): ok first off honeyy ask himm..dont be afraid to ask.for every guy has diffrent opion on what he likes..so asks him...now for basic tips..be gently at first..dont go wild and crazy...be gently and start at the head..use one of your hands if you like to kinda jack his penis at the same time...now use your tounge and swirl it around the head...tease his balls around and such..and when his about to cum let him cum all over your pretty face..and get some into your mouth and swallow it..he will love it when you do..just ask him and pratice makes perfect...good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): Great advice ;]
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): Start with very soft massage.
If you have beautiful smooth hands can add taste.
Gently press his balls.
then tease him with your tounge on top of his cock.
dont take it full from the start.
let him feel the desire and make him hot.
rub his inner thighs gently with your fingertips.
press his hips hard.
Now slowly move your lips on his shaft.
Leave your saliva in every go.
concentrate on the circumfrence of his cock.
convince him you too want it badly.
Be ready to eat his cum.
dont close your eyes when it cums
take the load all over your pretty face and inside mouth.
This will add to excitment.
At a very mature stage press his balls lil harder
keep moaning and become more wild.
dont hurt him by massive rubbing your lips
keep your lips like a baby sucks breast, don press your lips inwards.
dont take your eyes of him.
dont forget to be full naked yourself.
forget about modesty. Be open and shameless.
Keep on moaning " OOOOO baby"
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): To giving a good blow job is wanting to do it and feel comfortable with yourself and being attracted to the guy. If he really loves you, he will tell you what he likes and what feels good. Practice makes perfect. Only the one that can tell you what feels good is him. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): I really want to be able to give my boyfriend a really amazing blowjob, since this week end is going to be our first time and i know what to do, i just want some extra tips to really impress him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): i'm just going to throw everyone off, i actually honestly like it when she gnaws it a little. if it hurts, i tell her to stop, but it doesn't for me. bottom line, ask him what he likes. all of us are different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): Always ask if he likes it. I have been married for 20 yrs. he has changed the way he likes it as time goes by But with communication, I never fail to make him cum EVERY Time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): my boyfriend asked me to hum because he read somewhere that it would be good, it wasnt his cup of tea so i guess different boys or different!! my boy.f loves it when i lick his balls as well so whilst sucking and givin head, give him a hand job and concentrate on the balls for a sec! EYE CONTACT!!
c xx
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (7 September 2007):
Use your hands as little as possible.
Be gentle, don't use your teeth.
Concentrate on the head, esp the underside.
Look up at his face. Smile alot.
Ask him what feels good.
Follow his directions, if any.
Occassionally suck his ball very, very gently.
Lick up and down the shaft.
Take him all in every once and awhile.
Let him go down your throat (if u can w/o gag)
Gradually increase your speed.
Rub his body with you hands.
Don't stop until he comes,
Swallow the semen. Don't suck hard. Never blow
into the penis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): get it deep...thats the best
make the guy feel like hes sticking his massive cock all the way into ur vagina and its never coming out.
also rub ur pussy while u do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): number one rule!!! NO teeth.. guys hate that!
try to fit as much in as you feel comfortable with, but make sure you dont over do it or you will end up gaging. ew.
make sure to look up at him atleast once in awhile because guys think it is really hot
i know im a girl, but i would recommend looking at some porn and watch some of the girls techniques... thats what i did and i was told i was AMAZING my first time ever giving head :P
make sure your comfortable and try to enjoy yourself because guys can usually tell
make sure there is a lot of saliva or fluids or it will HURT them.. you can spit on it or give it a wet lick to keep it lubricated
start out slow and tease them a little, then slowly pump up and down on the head. then mix in licking the sides and deep throating to keep him guessing
one major thing is to start slow and get more intense so his pleasure can build up. when he gets close to cumming keep a slightly fast, steady pace going up and down with your mouth on the tip and your hand on the shaft till he cums
swallowing is a MAJOR plus.. but if you dont feel comfortable, you can spit.. but try not to do it right in front of him... he will like it more if he thinks you are enjoying every piece of him :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): Imagine you are giving him a handjob but using your mouth,
I would suggest you do something along the lines of:
1. tease him first, use your hands to gently pull, rub and massage his penis
2. kiss him from his mouth, down his neck, chest and stomach all the way down to his penis,
3. start by kissing his penis all over gently and gradually kiss harder and make sure your mouth stays wet with saliva - the wetter the better ;]
4. start sucking his penis, starting at the base, near the testicles and work up the shaft towards the head.
5. imagine you are eating a piece of rock and put the head of his penis in your mouth and gently suck (DO NOT USE TEETH!! - IT HURTS MEN!)
6. while sucking use your tongue to swirl round the head of the penis, be gentle and cover all of it!
7. At the same time use your hands to massage the bottom of the shaft and gently rub his testicles
8. Finally enjoy yourself! He will be able to tell if you are ok with it and if you are happy you ar emore likely to be relaxed, making him more relaxed and making the whole thing more sensual =]
plese rate my answer =] I hope it was helpful for you,
GOOD LUCK! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): Things I have learned from asking guys what they want...
First..Suck, don't just move up and down put some suction in it. Its reall easy to do and I have been told good things about how it feels.
Second..This may sound imbarassing, but they love it at least every guy I have done this to has. Hum, I learned this by trying to talk to a guy while giving a bj, he liked and asked me to keep doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): Learning to Deep throat is an Absolute plus, swallowing is a HUGE turn on aswell. Good luck, he's a luckt guy (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): I think giving a good blowjob is about wanting to do it.
I know that when i first started giving them i really didnt want to be there. But now ive met my bf i feel like i want to give him the best head i can i want him to feel good and enjoy it as much as i enjoy doing it for him.
I find teasing is also good it gets a guy amped up and really willing and excited about what come next
HAVE FUN!!! =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): Guys like it when you use your hand to jerk him off when im using my mouth....but it is also good to ask him what he likes or what feels good to him or you can try to be creative and see how he likes if from his facial expressions or the sounds that hes making.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): i tell you something i learnt this year + it's not how deep you can get it... it's all about pressure + techneque... i have my boyfriend screaming with pleasure + never once fail to satisfy him.. vary your techneque using your hand on the base twisting + moving up + down then your mouth on the most sensitive parts. moving you mouth in all sorts of directiions. lube helps too also get him to stand up and pull his penis down towards the floor. works a treat. gud luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): I love it when a girl can deep throat... so just practive with a carot or something.. also dont scrap with ur teeth its very painfull..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): Did you get your answer or are you still looking for one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): iv never given a blow job and want to know how... its not as simpl as putin it in your mouth, how you do it. if you get me. whys it called a 'blow' job? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): ask him what he likes!
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reader, ellie6 +, writes (24 November 2006):
Someone once told me treat a guys penis like a lollypop :o) keep that in mind lol!!
Some tips off the top of my head:
Use your tongue to swirl round the whole penis, not just around the head
Try and make his penis as wet as possible using your salvia
You could keep one hand on the base of the penis and also use to stimulate him more by moving it up and down like your giving him a handjob at the same time
Don't try and force too much of his penis into your mouth otherwise you will gag which isn't very attractive!
Keep looking him in the eyes as your doing it, he'll find this very sexy!
Make sure your comfortable and relaxed doing this, otherwise itll be awkward and boring for you, because you should enjoy pleasuring him too :o)
Good luck
But the best way of knowing if your good is by asking which bit felt the best, did this feel good, etc etc- don't be embarassed by asking, otherwise you'll never know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): The best way is to be with a guy where you can try something and ask him, get feedback. With experience you'll get better. Bare in mind though, different guys like different things. If you don't feel comfortable asking "Hows this?" or "Do you like it when I do this?" then the chances are you could be doing it completely wrong and you'll never know, he'll just pretend to like it and you'll spend the whole time feeling uncomfortable, or worse, you'll actually think you're good at giving blowjobs.
I would probably more agree with the first reply and less with the second. It is true that the penis is most sensitive on around the head, but it's a different kind of sensitive feeling.
The penis is made in such a way that it likes the feeling of friction along the whole shaft. Concentrating on the tip too much would be uncomfortable, and probably likened to a guy being too intense and rough on a womens clitorus. I would say probably mixing the two would be best. Remember, communication is best and you'll very quickly see what he likes best. In the same way make sure you are comfortable enough to tell him what you like best, that is the way you can be way good sexual partners together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): I have been told many times before that I give an amazing blow job. Unfortunately for you, it takes practice and confidence more than anything. Try teasing him first for a while, whatever way you want to (improvise!), as this means he probably won't last as long, as at first your jaw can ache A LOT if you're there for 20 minutes or whatever. Be very careful not to let your teeth get in the way as this can be very painful for him. You might want to hold it at the base, as I remember from giving my first blow job it kept moving around. Also if you have it in your hand you can give it a little bit of hand action at the same time as using your mouth. It feels better for the guy for you to have as much of his penis in your mouth as possible, but I wouldn't advise this on your first time as you may gag. Stimulate him with your tongue. Good luck!
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