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writes: I love my girlfriend very much and we've been together 3years now so I think I know she loves me but I'm paranoid all the time.We live apart at the moment and I keep upsettin myself thinkin she wants something else and is out looking for it. I dont know how to stop and relax coz I dont enjoy feelin like this at all! She reassures me all the time but something then happens to trigger off my insecurities! I dont want to endup losing her, Someone help please?? Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 |Paranoia might push her away and that is your biggest nightmare.
Try to fight it, not easy but you must work at this.
Being paranoid and miserable about what might or might not happen does not make matters better in any way. It does not ensure that it will never happen.
It your girlfriend was to be unfaithful, there is nothing you can do to stop it.
You have two choices in life.
1 Be paranoid, miserable and drive her away with lack of trust
2 Enjoy your relationship and allow yourself to be happy, she choose to be with you
Dont waist your life worrying about life and matters beyond your control. You only live once. Be happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): i have exactly the same problems mate, i was cheated on in the past and now find it very hard to trust women and always feel theyre looking for the bigger better deal. the only way around it is to take everyday as it comes and enjoy every moment with her. the more she has to reasure you she loves you the more she'll tire of your insecurity. just enjoy it. go out for walks,meals,pictures etc when you can..it must be harder being apart, is there no way to be closer?
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