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writes:ok, so theres this guy that i think likes me and i dont know what to do about it because i want him to leave me alone. at first when he would talk to me i thought he was just being nice. but now hes always calling me names like "baby" and saying how beautiful he thinks i am.he even tried to kiss me before. He 40 and i think hes married though i never asked. i wish he would stop but im not sure how to tell him. Reply to this Question
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reader, lotsofgiggles123 +, writes (12 May 2008):
 just tell him how you feel all bout this
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (6 May 2008):
Actually, the safest, surest thing is the scariest. The man may or may not know he is out of line. If YOU tell him and let him know that he makes you uncomfortable and you want to be left alone, you have thrown down the gauntlet. Do this in a public place, then leave. If any third party speaks for you, the entire situation muddied and he won't be sure if you mean it or if someone is just speaking their mind on your behalf. I know this to be true. If he bothers you AFTER you have been explicitly clear, then you have grounds for a legitimate complaint. Emotional courage is necessary here, but you can stay physically safe in a public place. You might want to bring a girlfriend with you as a witness, but speak for yourself. If you bring a boyfriend, he will think the bf put you up to it. You want to be crystal clear. The guy is probably safe, yet confused, but stay in public and you will be safe. This is also good practice for when you are older and need to be clear with guys. Good luck.
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reader, karina-louise  +, writes (4 May 2008):
i think the best thing is t do if u hav a bf tell him and it is not always best to tell parents tell your friends and they will help you you shud evoyd him asmuch as you can and if he carrys on take it futher x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): I am pleased firstly, that your alarm bells have rung load and stong. This guy is not someone you should continue to be around.
He has taken advantage of you totally. Irrespective of any marital state he is in, is is preying on you. And that is dangerous. Your a teenage girl who is vulnerable and he knows it. So well done for spotting this creep.
I was not sure of how you are involved with him? What relationship is he to you. I agree with the others that you should tell someone, preferrably your parents, but if this is uncomfortable then you need to give consideration to what happens if you don't.
Forget all of the typical parent/child problems and dramas with communication and consider perhaps another girl around your age who may not be able to handle this guy as well as you. If he has already made the approaches he has to you, he will be more than likely interested in others of your age, and perhaps others who could be terribly harmed by such a dog. This guy is dangerous and you have a responsibility to warn others of potential harm, particularly if he is in a position of counselling teenage girls.
He needs firmly putting into his place. But you need someone to know what is going on. Yes it will be embarrassing and difficult to discuss, but if you concerns about this guys intentions are correct, he needs to be nailed before he picks on the wrong young girl!
Tell someone, he should know much much better than this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): You should definitely tell your parents if you can, and avoid him as best you can. He has no right to act this way around you, and he needs to know where to stick it. What he's doing is just wrong! So tell your parents honey, because they'll be able to help you. And if he still won't leave you alone, you can even take this to the police. It's a serious offence!
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reader, katylj098 +, writes (4 May 2008):
katylj098 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbefore this started all i saw him as was and adult that i could talk to and trust (unlike my parents) someone i could talk to about anything. he was very nice and seemed to understand me. but gradually as he got to know me i think he misinterpreted my trust as liking. im not blaming myself because i cant see that i did anything wrong. im just not sure how to tell him this.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (4 May 2008):
 I think you should tell your parents. He's old enough to be your father and a 40 year old man making advances on a 16-17 year old is all kinds of wrong. He's crossed a serious line by trying to kiss you and I dont think you should have to deal with him on your own so tell your parents everything hes done and try to avoid him as much as you can.
Brooke
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