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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i dated this guy on and off for 2 years... i got pregnant and he left me. he said he was only with me for the sex and said he loved me because he felt pity... he always said he wanted to be there for the baby.. the thing is, i'm about to give birth in 2 weeks, he's in europe at the moment and he wants to come see the baby, i' love to see him because my whole pregnancy he has lived in europe and i miss him. i still love him and have feelings for him. it sounds obsessive... maybe it is. i love him even after everything he has said and done to me :( thats just what my heart feels... he says i have to understand that he will never love me and that i should not expect even the tiniest hug from him when he comes to visit the baby. i will be shattered with his cold and distant attitude... i just dont know how to get him out of my head!!! any advice on how to deal with this pain? i have already suffered because of this man my whole pregnancy (he never called or emailed me to ask how i felt, he never gave me his phone number and i would email him)aditional details: we are both in our twenties. i have a job and i go to college, i have my own apartment, im in a stable situation. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): That sucks. It makes me sad to read that you have to go through this. Don't worry too much about loving this guy. In my experience, if you really love him, you'll be able to let him go.
The only advice I can give you is that if you have good friends or are close with your family, surround yourself with them. Don't dream of getting your need for love and company met by this guy, because he obviously has no intention of doing it. But I'm sure there are other people in your life who will be there for you.
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