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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I had a breakup 2 years ago after having chilhood love (6 years)with a boy who lives in my neighbourhood. The breakup was very sudden and very rude on the ground that he was not ready to wait for me to marry (I wanted him to build his and my career first as I was the person who helped him in his studies and job and really wanted to see him settled)But he and his family had already seen and decided another girl for his marriage and that lead to the end of our relationship. Now he is happy in his married life and blame my family and me for delaying the marriage which caused this disaster(breakup).I was left alone by him crying and begging for few more months to wait as my younger brother was in the mid of his studies and i was the only help to my parents. I was shattered completely but decided to move on with all my remaining strength. But now, when he sees me happy (although I just pretend to be happy and calm without him), he says that I hv big attitude and thats the trouble in me. I do not know how should I make him realise that its not my arrogance but my bad experience with him. Pls suggest how should I behave in front of him. I really can't forget what he did to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): I am sorry for what you experienced, it sounds like it was very painful. If you have to be around this guy, I think you should just be yourself. Don't try and put on a happy act, don't try and appear sad, don't try and show anything...just be yourself. If he thinks you have an attitude, that is his problem. I know you are not arrogant. You know you are not arrogant. And the people close to you must surely know that too. So that is what matters. Let him think what he wants to. And even if he does think you are arrogant, what is it to him? He is now married, you have both moved on...it is none of his business. If he doesn't like how you are, that is his issue. You do not need to try and change yourself to please him. Just be yourself.
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